First, just being conscious that you have a problem is the beginning of being able to solve it.
The problem of "Maximus interruptus" - interrupting people mid conversation, and talking to much are bad habits.You are not alone, of course, in having these habits. And there is an explanation for them:
"Communication experts think that in a typical conversation the average person listens only a few seconds before they decide the next thing they want to say.
As we do so, we get more and more focused on the word and picture images in our mind, and less and less focused on what the other person is saying to us. The result? Our ears turn off and if we are not fully aware of what we are doing, our mouth turns on.
Unfortunately curbing the interruption habit is not as easy as just saying, “Don’t interrupt.” Why? Because like any other habit, interrupting involves a series of small behaviors that in order to be addressed, need first to be pulled up to the level of consciousness, and then subsequently dealt with. Let me explain: Interrupting begins not in the mouth, but in the mind
Prior to the words coming out of our mouth, interrupting begins in our mind. In the midst of listening during a typical conversation, it is very natural for us to begin “rehearsing our response.” "(1)
Solving the problem involves changing the habit. First by becoming aware, as you have, that you have a bad habit and want to change it. Second, as you have, go out and seek information about the habit. Continuous research on communication and habit breaking could possibly help. If you have a friend who can stop you and point out when you are doing the interrupting- without being condemning- also might help.
Another idea, Julia Cameron who wrote the Artist Way suggest that a person keep a journal, and that every morning- first thing- you write out three pages of whatever. Three pages- not two and not four. It's a discipline thing. Write about whatever comes to mind. Sometimes nothing will and you will have to force yourself , other times you will have to force yourself to stop at the very bottom of the third page. This she calls brain dumping. You might find that after doing this awhile you will become more focused, and less needing to talk.
Finally, think about this: interrupting people is believed to be one cause for baldness. (2)
Good Luck
2007-02-05 07:56:01
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answered by Anonymous
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I suggest that the spelling should be "Maximus interruptus". Not being a Latin scholar, I cannot translate it with any great accuracy, but "maximus" means biggest or greatest, and interruptus means - well - interrupt. Possible meaning therefore is "the biggest interrupter". Real Latin scholars will help you more. If it applies to you, just hold on and listen to what the other person is saying, and don't butt in until they've finished.
2007-01-28 19:16:51
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answered by canterma1n 2
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"Maximus Interruptus" would be a latin-ish form of slang or vernacular that references someone who interrupts people when they are talking.
The cause is do to people not listening, only hearing, and so they interrupt when the first thought they have comes to mind.
To stop doing it, focus on actually listening to what the person is saying. Repeat their words in your head as they speak. Then when they are finished speaking, say, "so what you are saying is..." and then repeat them in your own words. This will make them feel like you were really listening to them.
2007-01-28 19:19:28
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answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7
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Well Max doesnt speak emu so he needs a little help
he could just bury his head in the sand as some do
but he has an allergy and the dirt irritates his scalp.
2007-01-29 15:35:41
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answered by Yo Mum Mum 5
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