A couple years ago my boyfriend and i decided to move to another state(where his mother lived). we talked this over with his mother because we needed to stay with her while we got housing, jobs, kids schooling etc...established. she was fine with this.so we made the big move. within two weeks of our stay she began suggesting that me and my children(not her son)go to a shelter. since i refused. she began making it miserable for me and my children to stay there. we got into a huge argument and we left. not having anywhere to go my children and i slept in my car for the next week because the shelter refused us. i had no money to go back to my home town since giving it to the grandmother to help with food and bills. i finally tried to be the bigger person and begged the grandmother to let us back in. she did but it was the same bull crap so we went back to the car for another week. my apartment came thru. its 4 yrs later. i dont let this grandma see the kids. she tells me im wrong....am i?
2007-01-28 11:22:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This story sure got this old Granny's blood a boiling!! As a grandmother myself,I can not believe she would treat her grand [or possible future step-grand kids]this way.No matter how she feels about you,she should not have let them live in a car!.I feel you are in the right in the way you feel about her.Unless she apologies to you and the kids,she has NO right to see them.If she really cared,she wouldn't have treated you or them that way..~hugs to ya girl~Ladybug.
2007-01-28 11:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever marry her son?? That probably was part of her problem; she may not have wanted a whole family moving in with her for an extended period of time. But you've held this grudge for 4 years. She had the right to ask you to leave. HOWEVER, if you were very important to her son, he would not have had you and the kids move into a shelter or stay in a car. Bet he stayed with Mom, didn't he? THE JERK!! I assume you're still with him but what would it hurt to let her see the grandchildren? I do think that's wrong. Just like it was wrong of her son to let you and the kids fend for yourselves by living in a car.
This whole thing stinks!
2007-01-28 19:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No youve moved forward, your kids dont need her meddling in their lives, now that she has given up on you! What sort of woman wants her grand kids to sleep in a shelter??? You have a destructive relationship with this woman and she caused you too much pain already, dont give her another chance to make you and yours miserable!! I had the same problem with my ex M>I>L , she was so horrid to me, tried to turn my kids against me ect... i kept booting her out of our lives... then letting her back in when i felt guilty.
Its been two very peacefull years now and i will never let that woman back in! My kids need a happy, loving,respectfull enviroment to grow in, not the chaos caused by her. You know whats right for your kids.good luck girl!
2007-01-28 19:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK here's what i think
it's just like divorced parents
your kids deserve to see their grandma whether you get along with her or not
at least look like your happy with your mother-in-law
your kids probably don't want to see you argue
it's not fair to the kids to not see their dad's grandma because of you and your problems with her....
2007-01-28 22:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by RIAN4812 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'Sounds like she had you move in with her to have her "baby" (aka- her son) back home. She didn't like you to begin with. Anyone who can send children to a shelter is not worth talking to.
You're correct in ignoring her requests!
2007-01-28 19:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by mhcgjl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. she kicked u out of her house and didn't want u to stay. remind her. but, it's better to just foget than have revenge
2007-01-28 19:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by Summer l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU RESPECT YOUR GRANDMA. SHE PUT YOU INTO THIS WORLD, SHE CAN TAKE YOU OUT IF U KNOW WHAT I MEAN. YOUR GRAMDA IS YOUR SENSAI.
OWNED!
2007-01-30 01:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋