my g/f and i have been dating for about 4 and a half yrs, she's 29, im 22 and a half. About 2 weeks ago she informed me that she was preg and will be keeping the baby. she was on the pill the whole time we were dating (allegedly) so i never used a condom or any other type of birth control. i have a few reasons why i think she got preg on purpose the main one being that i ran into a friend of hers yesterday who congratulated me and said she was happy for us b/c "she knew how much my g/f wanted a baby" which was news to me! i just graduated from college and have a good job now and my g/f has been out of college for 7 yrs so financially this isnt a problem, i just am in no way ready to be a dad b/c of the huge change that bringing a child into the world will have on someone's life. just a few month ago she and i were talking about how neither one of us is ready for marriage yet so that isnt an option. on top of this, my mom is gonna kill me! any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanx.
2007-01-28 11:03:28 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't ask her! What good will it do? If it was an accident and you ask her, it's sure to start things off badly. Even if she did it on purpose, what difference will that make now? You are stuck for child support no matter what. Now you have to decide what role you want to play in the child's life. Will you be available for your child or will you just see him/her as a burden? If you plan to be involved, start RIGHT NOW. Stay involved, be there for the birth, stick aside some money. Line up your life as if the child was already here. What's done is done. You cant change the past, only plan for the future.
2007-01-28 11:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, she got pregnant on purpose?
people don't get pregnant on purpose especially if one of the partners is not ready to have a child, its your own fault for not wearing a rubber
welcome to the parenting world
2007-01-28 11:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't use condoms you got only yourself to blame! The urge to get kids is very strong and even if you deny it, it's still there
2007-01-28 11:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Bo V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋