I'm very attracted to this girl who, I guess you could say, had a recent breakup with her boyfriend. (2 months) We've hung out now a couple of times. I feel like I have a lot to offer to her. I can make her laugh, hold a strong conversation with her, and I'm not a pushover with her. I have the right approach, I think. I feel like she's playing these games with me. I know she has some sort of feelings for me. My main concern with the situation is that I'm affraid that she isn't or can't get over her ex. I've seen him before and I feel like he's probably a more attractive guy than I am. Not saying that I'm unattractive, but being self conscious, I'm worried that looks alone I'm not what the ideal guy looks like. So to get to the real question, DO GIRLS SAY THAT THEY CARE ABOUT PERSONALITY BUT REALLY CARE ABOUT LOOKS MORE?
2007-01-28 11:01:02 · 19 answers · asked by markymark1341 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What is it that women really want that question is up there with what is the meaning of life? In a "Hitchhikers guide to the galaxy" the answer is 42. so the answer to your question may be 37,45
2007-01-28 11:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bo V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that sorta depends and varies from woman to woman.
A guy that has a personality worth a bucket of gold starts to look attractive from the woman's point of view. When she first sees him she does not feel a major attraction to his looks but when he talks to her and proves that he is truly amazing as a person there is this glamourous light that shines on him from a woman's eye and she sees him as the most gorgeous person in the world.
A guy that is initially HAwt sort of has an unfair advantage. Women like stuff that are polished and beautiful and clean. Having that slip away is a little traumatizing. It is sort of a guilty trauma.
What I suggest you do is treat your girl right by doing what you are already doing. The only help you can give her now is happiness while she is in mourning. Dont take this as a personal setback. This just fits in with the laws of nature. Men probably do the same thing but who am I to justify that.
2007-01-28 19:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Brown Nymph 07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a good start with this girl. If she was together with her boyfriend for a long time, like a year or more, she is probably not quite over it yet. You should try to spend a lot of time with her, and if she needs to vent about her ex listen to what she has to say. Say there's something her ex did that pissed her off all the time ... you can avoid doing that around her. Girls usually don't just go for looks alone ... if I want to date a guy, I never just go for looks. A good personality is really important too.
2007-01-28 19:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks do matter in a way, but it's not the most important thing about a guy. Personality always comes first. If I had to choose between two guys I'd go for the one with the better character, even if he was ugly as hell and the other one looked like Brad Pitt.
2007-01-28 19:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by Eudora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks get the attention. Personality keep the attention.
You need both to make a relationship work, but thats the beauty of it. eveyone likes different people, looks and personality wise. Just believe that you are a great guy, and you will get the girl
2007-01-28 19:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, not all girls are the same. some may be shallow and more interested in looks, some may really be looking for a decent guy, some don't even know what they want. theres no easy answer, go with the flow and if she's the right one it'll work out eventually.
2007-01-28 19:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help who you fall in love with. It doesn't matter if he's attractive or only so-so...if he's nice or kind of a jerk...if he is shy or friendly or funny or smart or any of the above. You fall, you fall....it's a chemical connection, a connection that happens when it happens. If she's still gone on him, it doesn't matter how great you are in any way. You aren't *him*. :( Sorry....that's just how love works.
All I can suggest is just be a friend to her and she may some time discover she feels something for you too.
2007-01-28 19:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the age and maturity i think. I know when i was younger and kinda stupid , i was attracted to good looking guys that were horrible in every other way . Now that I have gotten older I appreciate things that i never did before. I think more realistically.
2007-01-30 23:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by Pinky75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls will say and do whatever they need to get what they want. I was told that girls think in the way that 'Nice guys are for marriage, bad boys are for fun'
When they come across someone who is very good to them and for them, they feel no urgency to grab on to it, as they are too comfortable with the fact that they can have you anytime they want. The weaker guys will allow themselves to get dragged around by her. The stronger, secure guys will know it's her loss by playing that game.
It's easy upfront to get the 'rebounder' girl, as she needs something to fill that gap. She needs to feel she can still get someone, in the event she was dumped by the ex. Their mind is not clear as they are still deciding if she should get back with him or not, and other things. The deeper you get, remember, she can drop you in a second to go back, and leave you with,' Thanks for being such a good friend'
Enter with caution and your eyes and ears open.
2007-01-28 19:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by degroove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the girl. the girl you are talking about seems to care more about personality. PERSONALITY IS ALWAYS IMPORTANT. but looks are always a plus. don't worry if you think she likes you then go for it, but you might want to wait a while just to make sure she is over her ex.
2007-01-28 19:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by marimbalover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋