My bird died 3 days ago.....?

Question

and I still can't get over it!!!How can I get over it?

Answer 1

I know how sad that can be. I had a bird that sat on the side of my plate and ate with me, went every where with me on my shoulder...I'm a teacher and she would go to school with me and my kids loved her. I decided one day that I wanted to breed her and bought a male of the same species. He was mean to her and beat her up. She did lay eggs but there were no babies and the male wasn't feeding her while she sat on the eggs in her nesting box. If she tried to come out, he pecked her. I moved her but she wouldn't eat. Bird experts said after six week, candle the eggs to see if anything is growing inside and if not, throw them away because they will begin to stink.

There was nothing and I threw the eggs away. The next day, my female was dead. I felt so guilty. She was such a wonderful bird with a lovely personality and it was my mistake to mate her to that aggressive male. She cried all night her last night alive and I felt terrible. That was years ago and I still feel bad. Children at school still ask about that bird and remember Bert.

Pets can almost be like a family member. The truth is, you may be sad for a long time but you get over it to some extent. You will always remember the pets you truly loved. I'm sorry about your bird and I understand. People who don't know birds, don't realize that many species of birds are much smarter than dogs and cats and can actually talk and they can say many appropriate things at the appropriate time...it makes them seem so human. Its amazing the pain a person can feel for a little bird!

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for your loss. Many birds die from malnutrition. Know that your bird was loved and we all do the best we can for what we know. Give yourself time. When the time is right, sanitize the cage and clean it out well. Try to get a bird from a reputable breeder. If you call an avian vet they can help you find one. Feed your bird a good pellet diet, add 10% seeds and 10-20% fruits and veggies excluding avocado, chocolate. You might write down your feelings in a letter by hand and say a little prayer for your departed bird if your religion permits.Sometimes, I feel better by making someone else's day a little brighter. When you light the path of another, you light your path as well. Things will get better and this new year has many pleasant surprises for you. Learn from the experience and free your heart to do wonderful things. Have a tweet year.

Answer 3

The loss of a pet is hard. When I was about 6, I had this dog that my family had since before I was born. Her health slowly declined and my mom was forced to put her down. It was the best for her. You're bird isnt suffering anymore (if it did at all). Stop beating yourself up. You couldn't have stopped the inevitable. Unless you did something totally dramatic (like toture the thing but I don't think ya did) then you didn't cause the poor thing to die. Talk to friends about your bird. maybe help out at a pet store or shelter in honor of your bird.Remember what you liked about him/her but don't I repeat DO NOT DWELL ON YOUR DEAD BIRD. Treat the bird as a human (don't go overboard and throw a big funeral though ;) ) remember and honor him/her. In a couple years adopt a new bird and love it as much or more as this one. Don't let the feelings for your feathered friend get you down. Keep yourself busy. If you cry, and people ask, just say you are mourning the loss or a feathered friend but don't extend the conversation on the note for long, it will take ya down and them with you. think happy thoughts (and maybe about happy things other than your bird). Hope this helped!

Answer 4

While you are still grieving, go look at other birds. Who knows, maybe you might find one that you can't be without. Somewhere out there is a bird waiting for you to be it's companion. Don't wait too long or you might loose interest and some pretty little bird will be lonely.

Answer 5

Time will heal sweetie. I lost a sweet little bird too. I had him for close to 10 years. He was a Cockatiel. He was so playful and so affectionate. I didn't think I could ever get over losing him. But, with time I did. I didn't get another bird. I don't think my Sammy could be replaced. I think of him often but it don't hurt any more to think of him. I think of him now with happy memories. My heart goes out to you. I can understand what you are going through right now. It will get better though as time passes. You will always have him in your heart.

Answer 6

I'm so, very sorry that you have lost your beloved friend.

You know, my very first bird was a cockatiel named Toby. I got him when I was a kid. He was just a teeny baby. He and I grew up together, ate together, played together, did pretty much everything together. Heck, I'd even sneak him with me to my first job at a pizza place (he'd hide under my button down and just hang out very quietly). That bird was my everything. He sang to me, he laughed at me, he yelled at the cat with me...he was just really special.

One day, long after I had grown up and had kids of my own I got up to go get him out, change his water and food and take him to his playstand. When I arrived at his cage, he had already passed away and was lying peacefully at the bottom of his cage. He was 17 years old, right around the right age to expire, but to for me it never made it easy to deal with. I had always hoped that I would have a chance to say goodbye, or at least have some inclination that he was going.

But, in the longrun, I now know that he didn't suffer long, he wasn't in the midst of a long and drawn out illness, it was just his time to go.

I swore to myself that day that I'd never get another bird. I just get far too attached to them. I buried him back behind my parents house with our other loved pets that have passed through the years, and gave him his own little headstone. We made a big deal of giving him a funeral for the kids so that they would understand, and accept that he was gone but not forgotten.

Then, several years later, I walked by a spectacular green bird who grabbed me and said "Get my toes! Get Ri-Ri's toes!" and the people who had him said that I didn't want him, that he was evil and not a good match. I ate my own words that I'd never get another bird, accepted a very tough challenge to tame this magnificent beast of a bird, and earned myself the reputation around here as the "Bird Whisperer".

Now I have two macaws, whom I love more than I could ever possibly put into words another human could understand and I don't know what I would do without them.

My advice to you is to use your pain as passion. Find a bird that needs you. Don't let your little girls life go down in vain. Instead, find a bird that needs you and take all that pain you're feeling for the loss of Layla and turn it into love and passion for saving a bird that needs the help. There are SO many out there.

Good luck and I hope you start to feel better. I understand completely the loss and heartache, and while no one here will say anything to make you feel better, just know that we're thinking about you and we do care.

Answer 7

We all grieve in our own way and time. Unfortunately, death is a part of life. Don't let anyone ever tell you that there is a certain time line in which you should "get over" this death.

Perhaps you could write about your feelings for your bird. Maybe try to draw pictures of him/her.

Try to remember the good times you had playing with your little baby. Think of the good times.

Answer 8

it happened with me that my bird that i use to feed her by my self when she was young, died from about 4 days, i got over it that i bought another one that is completely different, i am also feeding her, but i still miss her, so what ever u do, u wont get over it, just go and buy another one, but not the same at all, do like me!!!

Answer 9

That's just something that will take some time. I know how you feel because I lost my two birds when my husband and I moved from OH to GA I guess it was just to much on them. So just give it some time and you'll be ok.

Answer 10

Some people, they have no compassion!! I feel for you and one way to help get over the death of a pet is to have a small burial. Even if you do it in private. Also, one other thing that helps is to get a new bird or other pet. Hope this helps!