2007-01-28 10:52:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your son's father and tell him you want to know why all of a sudden does he want to start coming around? What's his motive? He has one and you need to find out what it is.
2007-01-28 11:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that the father, even though a little late, wants to see his son. Your son should be told if he is old enough that he is his father. Either way I would stay with him during the initial visits, until you and your son are comfortable with him visiting alone. There will come a time when your son will want his father in his life, and if that's denied him, he may harbor anger in the future.
2007-01-28 11:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just because he wasn't around in the beginning, he does have a right to see his son. maybe all he needed was time to adjust. and there is no set rule as to how long it should take. it depends what kind of man he is. i would let him be with his son, but i would let h im start eh relationship slow as to not hurt your son and to make sure it isn't just on a whim. and i would be there at all times to keep an eye on things, plus he probably won't know what to do with your son, and your son will not probably stay with him without you being he is an unfamiliar person. i don't know your son's age and demeanor, but i am guessing that it will take a while for your son to adjust. and make sure you tell his dad that if he wants to come around, its a permanent thing and nothing on the whim, his Son doesn't deserve to have his emotions go on a roller-coaster. it would be better off his dad not coming at all. at least your son won't be wondering what's wrong with him in the future. take care and i wish you much luck.
2007-01-28 11:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by bimmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will probably be the only one to say this but I'm being real, if I were you I wouldn't let him see him because of the fact he has not seen him and all of a sudden he wants to. Now whats gonna happen when your son starts to fall in love with his daddy then all over again he leaves, then who will have to answer the questions and see the tears you. Think of that baby, now if he wants to see him when he is old enough to make his own decisions so be it but think about it mamma.
2007-01-28 11:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by JaNelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So have the Baby daddy come over. Have a supervised visit. At least until you feel comfortable. If he does not want to do it this way find out why. Try to compremise. Meet each other at MCdonalds or your sons favorite resturant. What ever you do remember children are being hurt every day, we are supposed to protect them no matter what
2007-01-28 11:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help if you said how old your son is. If the kid is a baby, I'd allow a supervised contace. If the kid is much older, I would not allow contact nor would I go for child support.
Oh...and I would definitely put together some form of proof that he's been out of the child's life for x amount of time. You never know when they're going to decide to challenge you for custody to get out of paying support.
2007-01-28 11:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by S. W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't your son's father should you say your husband?
2015-06-28 23:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Margaret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well does he pay child support? If he does then I believe he has a right to see the child, but if he has been gone for that long and hasn't ever helped you and now is showing interest, I wouldn't allow him to see him. Again, it is your choice, but if he hasn't been interested and hasn't helped, why should you allow him to do what he wants?!
2007-01-28 11:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by shor_tee81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have much of a choice now.he is the dad.think before you make baby next time
2007-01-28 11:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by binda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋