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He refuses to do anything more than stand or sit next to me, and he barely even does that anymore! I told him about it but nothing seems to be changing. He just continues on like he always does... Should I break up with him, or stick it out?

2007-01-28 10:49:49 · 52 answers · asked by Makenzie. 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

He refuses to do anything more than stand or sit next to me, and he barely even does that anymore! I told him about it but nothing seems to be changing. He just continues on like he always does... Should I break up with him, or stick it out? I mean, he's so cute sometimes, it makes me want to be with him forever and he has such a way of making me laugh, and then sometimes he insults me and does things that no boyfriend should EVER do, and yet I love him so much that I'm not sure I would be able to break up with him. Any advice?

2007-01-28 10:51:36 · update #1

I thought this would be a fairytale, but lately all it's been is a situation where I find myself crying every night about it. I don't know if I can take this much longer but I love him and he says he wants to change but he's having a hard time with it, and I don't know if I can wait.

2007-01-28 11:06:57 · update #2

By the way, I meant cute as in say things that make me wanna melt cute, although he is cute in looks too :)

2007-01-28 11:08:50 · update #3

Not into PDA? Well yeah, that could be, but it's more than that. Even when it's just me and him at home or whatever, it's like I have a deadly disease and he refuses to come nearer to me than he absolutely has to. One time he even scooted away because our legs were touching!

2007-01-28 11:22:52 · update #4

52 answers

Give it to him straight....tell him how you feel about the situation and about him. Ask him how he feels about the relationship. If he doesn't answer your question the way that you want him to let him go. You deserve better than that.

2007-01-28 10:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Perhaps you should try showing the affection your seeking (like hold hands or give him a kiss or hug). Maybe he doesn't know what he should be doing, however if a boyfriend says or does inappropriate things tell him so. Don't brush it off or ignore it, let him know you don't appreciate it and want him stop it and apologize.
If he continues or is just not there for you, dump him. Most of these type of boys are not going to change anyways, move on before you miss out on someone who is worth your time.

2007-01-28 11:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0 0

Well if nothing is changing and you have spoke with him about the issue, then the next logical step would be to move on. There are billions of people out there, no use to suffer with one who isn't giving you the time of day. Not only that but if he isn't what you want in a boyfriend why bother?

2007-01-28 10:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by joe h 1 · 0 0

I don't think you really love a guy who treats you with such disrespect, even if he is cute. He sounds like a bad habit that you don't know how to break. It's time to say "good-bye" and move on to a more compatible and joyful relationship with someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.

2007-01-28 10:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0 0

Maybe he isn't into public displays of affection. That might be why he just stands next to you and doesn't put his arm around you or hold your had. If you love him as much as you say, then it's something you will just put up with. If you think you would be better off finding someone who is more into PDA, then you should end it.

2007-01-28 10:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to talk to him about this at once. Men have a way of avoiding problems rather than tackling them head-on. They don't like to talk about their feelings. But if you tell him you want to have a serious talk and make a date for it I am sure he will listen to you. Then you need to be straightout. You need to ask him if he cares about you and wants to be with you and only you. Tell him that he does not always show this to you and that you need to feel loved and wanted to be in this relationship. Talk to him about what you have in common, hopefully more than a few minutes worth.
Then you need to tell him that if he does not want you to let you know so that you can move on with your life. If he is shy that is one thing but if he does not care about your feelings that will never ever change and if that is the case move on. You need to find your perfect match. Not just a cute guy by your side. Life is about more than that.

2007-01-28 10:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 0 0

I would probably break up with him. Especially if you have discussed this issue before and he hasn't done anything about it. He is clearly not satisfying your needs and if he truly cared about you, he would put forth somewhat of an effort. You are not asking for too much, end it now. The longer you put it off, the more difficult it will be.

2007-01-28 10:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by Summer 5 · 0 0

Dump him because every girl or women has the right to be treated like a queen especially if they have a boyfriend or husband and if they cant treat you like a queen you need to dump him and find a real man. Iight!

2007-01-28 11:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by MeLicia T 2 · 0 0

Noooo dump him! You can do so much better than this loser...don't think of the good qualities he has rite now..think of the bad ones and break up with him. Find a guy that deserves to be with you cuz he obviously doesn't!!!

2007-01-28 10:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by sexyshortie91 2 · 0 0

hmmm you have answered your own question,,, you say he does not act like a boyfriend,and he just sites and does nothing,,,also you say you have thought about leaving him, but that at times he makes you laugh and he looks cute,,, hmmm well its simple, do you like or would you like to keep having him treat you this way? do the negatives outweight the positives? you have to be having fun and most important, you must be happy in a relationship..if not then your waisting your time. seek happyness elswhere.good luck.

2007-01-28 10:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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