Well, I am almost 17 years old and My boyfriend is almost 18 years old. I dont know how I really devolped the whole "I cant stand it when you talk to girls" or "I dont beleive you when you say you love me" How can I stop? I thought he was cheating on me because I read his Myspace, and it was talking about how a girl was hanging all over him. I got sooo mad and I couldnt stop crying. I confronted him about it and he suggested that we break up. I cried again and we didnt break up.He said it was his friend that wrote that. I beleive him because he almost cried with me when I cried to him about it. I went through his private stuff and yes, I have done it before. Just how do I stop? I want our relationship to prosper, and be filled with happiness. It cant because of me. I feel like i'm loosing him slowly. We have been together for two years and I dont want it to go to waste.... please help me, what can I do to stop bieng jelouse and be more trusting?
2007-01-28 10:42:18 · 15 answers · asked by PrincessM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You definitely have a very real problem here. Jealousy will break up the best of relationships.TRUST is one of the main ingredients for a healthy relationship and without it ,it is doomed from the start.
You asked us to tell you how to stop, that is something that only you can do. You need to ask yourself what reasons do you have to be this way. If you don't have any it could be that you have been around someone who's relationship was like the one you are creating.
Every time you start to act like a b-itch you need to remind yourself that it is just your insecurities and remember what you stand to lose. It is all up to you1
2007-01-28 10:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, Both of you are very young. I will not call what you have puppy love but I think that you are too young to be in a committed relationship. You have been together 2 years...That is a very long time. What you have to remember is that you are still growing up and developing into who you will become. Sometimes, when you have been together so long people grow apart because they are still developing. Both of you need to take a step back and decide what is really going on. Jealousy is never a good thing in any relationship! It you don't have trust what you you have? It is not healthy and it sounds like he is tired of dealing with the whole issue. Take a break...see other people...if it is meant to be it will!
2007-01-28 10:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jalyn24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had this same issue... Try to remember back in your child hood and see if there was anything that might have caused you to not to trust and be insecure. There might be some scares hidden that you have never dealt with or healed properly from. By any chance do you have trust issues and jealousy problems with only your b/f or is it with anyone close to you? The fear of getting hurt is normal but don't let fear control you... Sometimes we try to control things that we really have not control over like getting hurt, etc.. Once you accept this the better off you will be.. Taking chances in relationships is scary yet you can also think positive and say it matures me.
2007-01-28 10:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you are able to recognize your role in this problem (you can never guarantee that a person won't give you a reason to be jealous, but it doesn't sound like from what you've written that this guy has). I'm sure some people will give wonderful advice (and probably some not so good advice), but it seems like what would help you most would be counseling to help increase your self-esteem in general. You need more going on in your life that helps you feel good about yourself besides just this relationship. As you grow more confident, it will show and you will probably feel more at ease.
2007-01-28 10:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think all girls and guys go through the jealously stage. Don't let it consume your thought or your relationship will be over quiet quickly.
I had issues at one stage, but then I thought "If he doesn't want to be with me he could just leave, and he hasn't, so he must love me and want me"
When he talks to other girls, it may make you a bit jealous/insecure, but when you talk to other guys do you really think of it more than when you speak with a girl?
Try your best to just live life to the day and not worry about it he is going to leave you for someone else, if that day comes, deal with it then, in the meantime, have fun and enjoy being in love.
2007-01-28 10:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For despite reason, you're no longer effective adequate in your self to have self belief that any one ought to rather love you. a minimum of, this is how I used to experience. apparently adequate, i chanced on that the jealousy subject very almost thoroughly disappeared while i began taking Prozac for melancholy and panic assaults. i be attentive to how crippling jealousy could be, and likewise how self-defeating. you finally end up turning out to be the placement which you feared the main (ie, having somebody reject you), probable so as which you would be able to administration it by skill of making it ensue until eventually now it happens to you. The administration is an phantasm, nevertheless, and a huge waste of effective time. I even have slowly discovered that folk rather can love me and that some people rather could be depended on. It takes time and attempt. attempt to no longer obsess over a damaging theory while it pops into your head.
2016-09-28 02:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by schenecker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at yourself. It might me no self-confidence in yourself... Once you understand how important you are to yourself, relationships become easier. I have been with my current girlfriend for almost 2 years. I have had problems trusting her and she had problems trusting me. We have worked on improving ourselves first. Than has our relationship seen light. Look inside yourself, first. This is interesting because it sounds like my girlfriend doing the same thing to me. Meaning... I am like your boyfriend and my girlfriend is the same way.. It's all in her head.. It’s all BS.. Trust me.. it's not real... it's just to see if you are serious about this relationship... 2 years is a long time.. You must be doing something right..
2007-01-28 10:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by LeonBasin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want you to know that you sound just like me when I was 17 years old. I loved my boyfriend more then anything and I was soooo jealous. But now I realize I shouldn't have been like that and what happens , happens regardless of how jealous or upset you get at him. So look out for yourself first and know that you will be okay with or without him. Easy for me to say it, huh. Be happy is all I am trying to say
2007-01-28 10:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by southg11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way.I came to the conclusion that It's a lack of self esteem. If I had more self worth I would care less if my girl friend was flirting. You must believe & trust in you're self before you can trust somebody else.
2007-01-28 10:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by jimbobob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A HOLD OF URSELF!! if you really really really don't want to loose ur bf then your gonna have to make urself believe/know that he's being faithful. if it's true love then u ain't got nothing to worry about! another suggestion? get professional help..
2007-01-28 10:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by islandgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋