Well i've dated this guy 4 weeks ago, and we talk on the phone since then but we recetly went on a date is it okay to have sex with a guy then.
2007-01-28 10:34:31 · 32 answers · asked by pvy_crazy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its ok if you think its ok --- if you have to ask then you are probably not ready ---- best wishes
2007-01-28 10:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are not asking if it is against the law. As far as the guy law, you are putting yourself into the booty call/permaneent friend/no commitment area. Not that i speak for all men but the longer he waits the more willing he is to make a commitment to get it. Like on the television show, Girlfriends.. 3 months seems like a good rule. If he waits for 3 months, only being charmed by your conversation and personality he is worth maybe taking the chance but he STILL could bail out on you after he gets it. Its like a potential gold digger waiting for a payoff. Maybe she will wait maybe she will turn on her heels and run when he says no presents, expensive dinners and NO money until after they have dated exclusively for 3 months. Its better to wait in my opinion but if you can't wait atleast do it and not be clingy and calling him every day. A woman who can do that intrigues a man. If you can wait and then don't get clingy or even call him less he will be double intrigued.
2007-01-28 10:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by Magnus01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how I feel about it ...
You should stay a virgin till you're married.
God intended it to be that way.
But many, MANY people abuse that.
And God looks down on those people.
You don't just give your virginity to just anybody.
It is the best present you can give your future husband.
It is you... it is all of you.
If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.
Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.
I have a boyfriend of almost a year that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
2007-01-28 10:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That depends on how you feel and how well you think you know him. I personally would not because I don't think that you could know him well enough yet. A guy can tell you anything over the phone. If it is meant to be there will be a 3rd and 4th date and you will have plenty enough time to have sex with him.
If you do please use protection.
2007-01-28 10:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jalyn24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh i wudn't...u don't want that to be basis of ur relationship...sex changes everything...u wanna get to know this guy for longer than a month...u don't wanna end up regretting ur decision cuz u cudn't keep ur horomones under wraps...besides if he is really in to u then he will respect u enough to wait until the time is right...that said...wait until the "honeymoon" phase dies down a little and then u can make a rational decision without ur horomones getting in the way...if u do decide to, then make sure u protect urself...gud luck!
2007-01-28 10:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by Retarded Genius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just me, I would wait, because that is something you can't take back.
What if you only date him one more time and then you decide that you really don't like him, or what if he's just a player, and he dumps you?
Waiting for something only makes you want it more. and if after say a month of actual dates, you decide that you really want him, and he wants you, then what the hell, why not.
Why rush it though, you might lose your self respect, and wish you had not 'lost your mind' for that moment that you made that decision.
Good luck, listen to everyone's answer, then make your own.
2007-01-28 10:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ... totally not ... u shouldn't have sex till your married for one because it's wrong and second because if you do have sex with a guy that u barley know you risk the consenquences of getting a STD or getting pregnant and him leaving you too take care of the baby. Dont risk it
2007-01-28 10:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by foxchristian90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so...I met my boyfriend one night and he lives out of state but we talked for weeks after that..I felt I knew him so well and I slept with him on our second date. It seems we just "clicked" and we have been going strong since. Good Luck!!
2007-01-28 10:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sabby S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"um no. why would you want to do that? what if he just decides to leave you after that?" says one respondent . . .
you know, there are so many moral hard heads in here, that i would bet my last penny don't practice what they preach. the above response assumes you want to be with him on a long term basis. some girls enjoy one nighters or short term relationships, and some girls are even diverse enough to enjoy the best of both worlds: having fun with mr. wrongs while searching for mr. right.
2007-01-28 10:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is the ultimate expression of love.
Many people fall in "love" and get married
Half of all marraiges in the U.S. end in divorce.
So 50% of people who THINK they are in love are NOT.
Save yourself for the right guy,and the real thing.
2007-01-28 10:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mark K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your horny and you want to screw than get it on. What are you waiting for? Do you really think it will better if you wait? Have you ever had reheated pizza? It's always better if you eat it when it first comes out of the oven! Sexytime!!!
2007-01-28 10:41:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋