Why do so many people whine on Yahoo Answers, "my boyfriend/girlfriend cheated on me"?
If you are not married, there is no commitment. Right?
(And you if you are having sex with each other, then you both are cheating on your future spouses).
2007-01-28 10:30:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that line should read, "...if you are having sex before marriage"
2007-01-28 10:32:09 · update #1
good point.my bf cheated on me, but honestly, why should *i* be the one crying and whining?he should be the one crying!and about the last part in parenthesis, very true! i must say that you have a very good point!bravo*clapclapclap*!!!
2007-02-04 08:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by *~*flyleaf rocks out loud*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to some degree that is true. if the partners are closely involved and have agreed to be exclusive prior to marriage or even prior to engagement. neither is saying marry me and answering yes is not an engagement nor a commitment unless you both really mean it and show each other a true communication with each other. an ongoing communication and effort to be committed.
having premarital sex with your future spouse for example may be committing a sin in some religions or cultures but not necessarily in the heart mind or spirit of the people involved. sex is more of a natural thing...marriage is a contract and something to be worked at and in some cases unnatural against nature.
whatever. peace
2007-01-28 10:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree because there is a major level of commitment between boyfriends and girlfriends that is why they are in a "committed" relationship or they are exclusive. It is not ok for my boyfriend to cheat now or after we are married and we would not be husband and wife if he cheated. There most certainly is commitment but how some deal with cheating is another question all together.
2007-02-04 15:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that may have been true 50 years ago when people generally married young and theoretically waited until marriage to have sex. but today, people don't get married until much later in life - especially if you are educated - and therefore the dating relationship has taken on a much greater psychological signifigance to those in them. a person you date for three or four years in your 20s is a major relationship, and a betrayal hurts nearly as bad as if you were married, though there are less legal consequences.
plus, the delay of marriage for many has also made it inpractical to wait until marriage to have sex. having sex is a risky behavior, both because of the chance for ilness and the chance for pregancy. therefore, a betrayal is likely to have real consequences in terms of trust.
2007-01-28 10:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Cheating" is a very complex issue.In my opinion, when you are in a "committed" relationship with someone, you give them the rights to first refusal, if you get my drift. For example, if your b/f or g/f is not fulfilling your needs in bed, you should have the right to go looking elsewhere in a safe environment. A marriage licence, as well, is not a document that states "If I don't want to have sex with you you are forbidden to look elsewhere". Cheating??? Nah---the real crime is when someone claims to love you and want you but is "never" in the mood, and persecutes you for the slightest hint of you looking elsewhere...As far as commitment goes...I can tell you "marriage" isn't always where it is at, and not needed to enjoy life with your partner of choice. Just keep him/her pleased beyond their wildest dreams....end of problem.
2007-01-28 10:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by starcrssdlover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!You are not cheating on your spouse because...there not committed either.So if your together for 9 years and not married or engaged your not committed?
2007-01-28 10:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a one on one relationship with a girl/guy, you shouldn't be cheating on them with someone else. You can't cheat on your future spouse if you don't know who that will be.
2007-01-28 10:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by Deborah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you are with someone, then you DO have a commitment to that person and them alone!!! Sex is just icing on the cake so to speak!
2007-01-28 10:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good question. you do have a commitment, but i do agree no sex before marriage.
2007-01-28 10:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by SHANNON. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD QUESTION!
2007-01-28 10:33:02 · answer #10 · answered by sammy321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋