So, i have been seeing my boyfriend for about 8 months. he is 6 years older than i am... The person i lost my virginity to was just over 10 years older than i am. im worried that if i keep it a secret, im not trusting him completely, but if i do tell him im afraid of what he will think that the only other sexual partner iv ever had was that much older than me... What do i do? should i tell him?
2007-01-28 10:24:19 · 30 answers · asked by the_sky_is_my_sanctuary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my age shouldnt matter. Although im probably younger than most of you think.. im not like 14 or anything
2007-01-28 10:31:07 · update #1
he knows i have had atleast one other. We have talked about different positions and stuff. But never went into that much detail. he knows i wasnt a virgin
2007-01-28 10:45:22 · update #2
you should be honest about your past partners but the details of their age shouldnt matter and doesnt need to be brought up. if he asks...and u want to tell him...then tell him. If he leaves u alone for something like that then he wasnt the one for you.
2007-01-28 10:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by TTerrell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you really love your boyfriend and are planning to be with him for a while youre better off telling him the truth. It always feels better when you know you have nothing to worry about or hide. You can sleep alot better at night too lol you never get away with lying the person will find out eventually..its better for him to find out from you rather than from somebody else..finding out from somebody else will completely ruin things. If he decides to leave you because of it he didnt really care as much as he should have..and he wasnt at ALL worth your TIME. If you tell him you wont have to feel weird.. while having the whole thing in the back of your mind. every time your with him. So i say just get it off your chest.
2007-01-28 10:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by norma50_pro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right, unless you have had the 'who all have yo had sex with' talk then it really is not of any concern.
If you have been untruthful, then NOW is the time to fess up.
for all you know he may have lost his virginity to someone alot older than him, I wouldn't sweat it.
Do not be afraid, most guys are only concerned with how many guys you have been with, and if it was safe sex or not, and if you still have feelings for said person.
If you tell him: one, yes,it was safe, and no feelings left. then I am sure all will be forgotten.
Just tell the truth, when it comes up.Don't push the issue.
2007-01-28 10:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he asks I wouldn't say anything. If he asks then be honest. Why create an issue that's may not be on his mind. If you do this out of the blue he will wonder why you mentioned it. Would you tell him because he wants to know or do you have something to get off your chest? My advice is don't start trouble for no good reason. You will make him unhappy and yourself no happier.
2007-01-28 10:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to tell him your virginity secret? so that you can trust him? it just doesn't make any sense.
and for your virginity secret, No body should know! that's none of his business... unless you have STD's... even if you do, he does not need to know that where it's from.
Trust me, they do not want to hear about your first partner... it's just gonna make your relationship sour...
if you can't trust him because you didn't tell him about your first experience, then it's your problem, not your boyfriend. Why are you digging your own trap?
2007-01-28 10:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it matter when you lost your virginity. I don't see that it is any of his business. The past should be left in the past. From experience, when you tell your current bf about past boyfriends, you are giving them ammo to use when you are arguing about something.
2007-01-28 10:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Deborah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you did in your private life before you met him is none of his concern, as it is none of your concern about his. It's up to you what you tell him, but be very careful, because some guys are very funny about this sort of thing. They like to think that they were the first, and get very jealous and angry when they find out that they were not.
2007-01-28 10:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him, be honest. this guy was only 4 years older than your current bf so unless you're very young, that's not a big age difference. how old are you anyway?
2007-01-28 10:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him that. If he is mad or upset then he's stupid! If he's not that means he loves and trust you. Anyway how can he be upset about what happen in the past!!! You're not cheating on him and you love him and that's all you need!!!
2007-01-28 10:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Vesdog! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty IS the biggest part of ANY relationship! If he freaks out about it all, then he was never worth you to begin with. If he's loving and accepting of the truth, then love if and return the honesty too!!
2007-01-28 10:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋