Confused child in middle school?

Question

Im in middle school and lately I have been attracted to older guys? I have never liked a guy before. Lately I havent found anyone that I like, male or female. I liked alot of girls earlier in my life, but like I said, I havent found anyone girl that I like now. Some people think I am a gay in school. I can cook and am pretty good with like design. Not good in sports but really smart and an excellent leader, president of my class. I also have more friends that are girls and I respect them more than guys, but i have male friends too. People also say I am very mature for my age. But I dont like anyone now, think more guys are attractive then girls. Is this just a normal stage or is it a peek stage in being gay? I also have like a history of being not hte normal child when I was 5-10, I had stupid parties and acted feminine when I was younger, all the I regret but was to young to relize

Answer 1

Its very normal to have mixed feelings on sexuality at your age. Nothing to be frightened about. Just take your time , you hormones are developing, give them plenty of time to fully develope.They you will have a better idea.

Answer 2

Well, I'm not a psychologist or anything, but it sounds to me like you are showing signs of bi or homosexuality. This would be about the right time of your life for you to start having these feelings. It doens't surprise me at all that they just started recently.

I hate that you keep using the word "normal," like being gay isn't normal. You're fine, you're normal... whatever that means.

Although, I think it's true that my heterosexual male friends probably never felt themselves being physically attracted to another male (unless there is something I don't know, which is possible) - that still doesn't make you abnormal or different...

I think you should just go with and accept anything that you feel.

If you come to the realization or the decision that you are gay, you might want to think about the implications of telling people before you do... high schoolers and middle schoolers can be horribly mean... if you live in a progressive and open area, you might be fine... but if you live in a Red State... just be careful!

I wish you the absolute best of luck!!! This is a confusing time in life for ANYONE no matter what!!!

Answer 3

To truly be gay,you have to involve yourself in a homosexual act,you cannot blantenly say,"I'm gay",because the word is different from the action itself.
I just think you are having issues with your sexuality, everyone has it. You don't exactly need to date in this stage in your life. Dating is meant to be for mature,people,ready to take on the responsibilities of their actions. Being a kid and having parties that involved what would seem feminine does not classify anyone as gay. Those are stereotypes put onto the gay community by people,and have been taken to various extremes.
Evaluate yourself,for which sex do you feel as if you have the strongest sexual desire for? Liking the same sex is different from having a sexual desire for that sex. Could you imagine yourself with a girl or a boy? Cooking is a good thing to know and it doesn't make you gay.
Wait a while,evalutating yourself and giving yourself time to grow and mature will answer all of lifes questions.

Answer 4

Josh! Slow Down! You don't have to be attracted to anyone right now. Obviously, from your posting, this is not about sex. Can't you just have your male friends and female friends and not link it to sex at all. Right now you just aren't thinking with your anatomy and that isn't a bad thing! Take advantage of this time to work on your education and extra-curriculars. You'll be alot better for it in the long run and you will find that people will look up to you. They may tease you but it just covers up their own insecurities. Also, who the heck told you that you weren't normal when you were younger. Who made them the judge of what is normal. Every kid is different and all kids are part of their environment. Quit being so hard and judgmental on yourself. Enjoy life, smile through what people 'think they know' and just have fun.

Answer 5

For one thing who cares if you can cook and design i know plenty of guys that do but that dosent mean there gay!! U will know in the end if you r truely gay or not if its u then its u just wait and find out!!!

Answer 6

Not that there is anything wrong with this, but it does seem that you are becoming gay. I really do not think its just a stage if it has been happening for this long.