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long story short,i had this best friend of mine for about 9 years,we became friends in the 6th grade,and ended the friendship as a sophmore in college,like 1 week ago.anyway 9th grade i spilled my guts, told her how i felt about her,i was sincere,i really loved her. but she said no,in a nice way.she jumped from boyfriend to bf, one jerk after another, they hit her, emotionally abandoned her, and only hurt her.i loved her so much and wanted her to be my world. i was her best friend so i got to bring her roses,and take her to movies and dinner,and spend time with her without having to make up excuses as to why.but she could never see how much i wanted her..she broke my heart,it hurt alot and it still does.i just wanted a chance to make her happy,because i can tell it's not a feeling she's used to.i brought up the idea occasionaly as the friendship went on.but still,no.i think mentally,i'm emotionally bankrupt,like i just give up,i believe i wasn't meant to be happy,i did my best & failed

2007-01-28 10:21:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

7 answers

as one D'archangel to another..

OK truth time.. what you really wanted was to make YOU happy.. and i can dig that.. but she wasnt haveing any of it.. so.. whatta ya do.. not her bag.. ya cant force it... now can you?

But yer prime mistake in yer text was you just wanted to make HER happy.. Nope thats self delusion.. your interest was in making you happy.. with her... what can I tell you? I didnt say iot didnt hurt.. it always hurts when stuff doesnt meet out expectations and wants.. just dont get delusional about it...
That didnt work (NO MEANS NO REMEMBER) look elsewhere perhaps.. someone thats on the same sheet of music.. yer never ever gonna convert anyone in anything anywhere if they didnt want to be converted in the first place.. thats a fact.. in everything..

2007-01-28 10:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0 0

Hey, hey, hey..don't beat yourself up!
She could be 'emotionally scarred' from those abusive relationshps you said she was in, and may not feel like trying to make it work with someone else. She also, could feel that if she were to start seeing you as a boyfriend, the possibility of you breaking up could hurt the friendship...and she may not want that because of the support you show her in that role.
Just give it some more time...let her know you aren't going anywhere even if she turns you down...she could come around some day....!

2007-01-28 18:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jesus is Real 3 · 0 0

You're the nice guy. Take it from another "nice guy" who was in the same situation. I was friends and in love with some one for over 10 years and she never came around. If you are nice, you are seen as uninteresting. Someone "bad' is seen as sexy and interesting, and a challenge to be changed. Except they never change anybody. And so it goes, it is just some outdated instinct from eons ago that women chose the bad strong guy for reproduction because of good genes. Move on, you'll eventually find a smart girl who moves beyond these "instinctive feelings"

2007-01-28 18:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by speewah2002 1 · 0 0

give her some space for just a little while and then, ask her how she feels about every thing. if she wants to take a chance with you then you have what you want,, if she dosen't like you in that manor and then I hope you just hope that she can be happy and try to still be friends.

2007-01-28 18:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by roppter3--it really is! 1 · 0 0

yea i know how it feels ive liked a guy for 4 yeras and he would only see me as a friend and he would get with girls that didnt even like him but that part of life she lost you i wish i had a guy like u!

2007-01-28 18:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by Girl 2 · 1 0

get a new best friend man

2007-01-28 18:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

DONT GIVE UP IT TOOK MY BF 4 YEARS OF INSISTING THEN HE GOT ME HAHAHA NEVER GIVE UP ALSO NEVER BE NORMAL SORRY IM KINDA WIERD

2007-01-28 19:09:25 · answer #7 · answered by puertorican_jary 2 · 0 0

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