I went out with this guy once in December and we have talked a few times on the phone since then. On our one date, he practically stood me up: he had to work late but didn't call to tell me until an hour after we were supposed to be out. I went out with him anyway because I was all dressed up, and had an okay time, and we kissed a little at the end.
But he has since done a lot of not calling when he says he will and then he called at 4am drunk. We talked last night and i tried to tell him I didn't want to see him again, but he said that he was out of town because his friend was killed and that it wasn't his fault he didn't call. He has admitted that he doesn't want to feel "committed" to me b/c he just got out of a long relationship, but he does want to see me again. I don't want to bother with someone who doesn't take me seriously but I feel guilty about blowing him off b/c his friend died. How can I tell him I don't want to see him again without being mean? Is that possible?
2007-01-28 10:00:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know you dont want to hurt his feelings but at the end of the day youll hurt him more by sticking around through the tough times and then leaving. sometimes the best thing to do is leave. hes already said hes not up for commitment and i assume this dosent fit your criteria be in control of your own happiness and break the chains you seem like someone who has alot to invest in a relationship you deserve someone with the same crudentials
2007-01-28 10:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you deserve better than that. if he had a friend who died than you have to give him some slack on that one, but semms like he has done that to you more than once. May not be an easy way to tell him. you could say " i had a nice time on our date, but i think i need some time just for me" he should get the hint.
2007-01-28 18:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is not being mean is being honest. just tell him u dont want to keep on seeing him because you feel used. hello!!! is kinda obvious. he stoods you up and then goes out with you when HE wants to. becareful, he doesnt want to be in a comitted relationship but he wants to see you.....that is not so good, i think that he just wants some of you....i suggest you be careful. if u want a friendship keep it but becareful and be a bit distant so you dont get used. keep your self respect. :) good luck
2007-01-28 18:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by MAX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no point in even trying to let anyone down easy..
easy .. hard.. same effect.. easy just prolongs the "dance"
Do it get it over with..
2007-01-28 18:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you dont want to see him anymore. he should expect it...he was acting like a jerk. and its no ones fault that his friend died.
2007-01-28 18:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by Aquarius-Monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
juat tell him that it was a fun ride but it has to stop at some point.
2007-01-28 18:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋