My Grandma is 82 years old, and has money. I know I probably wont see anything from her, I would like to see a financial memory. Every christmas and every birthday my grandma gives me 30 and 20 dollars respectively. It was great when I was 7 years old, but now at 29 it just makes me think about her and call her. so if she dies soon, she can have that set up to payout. She gives the same to all grand kids and i think it would really help in remembering her when she is gone.
Whats the best way to ask her about this, and would you ask your own grandmother to do this? Thanks
2007-01-28 09:59:59 · 15 answers · asked by Joe Bob Charlie, Joe Bob Chopper 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Its not for financial gain, its 50 dollars a year, I have a job.
2007-01-28 10:07:42 · update #1
I say that when she passes on you get qet what you get and remember the good times with Grandma....suggesting a trust fund would be tacky....who knows maybe she will do it on her own
2007-01-28 12:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smoothie, aka Mr. SmartAss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Horrible idea. First of all, you don't mention how close you are with your grandma. Do you even have a relationship with her? To remember your grandma strickly by the 20 bucks she sends you every year isn't saying much about your current relationship with her. Do you spend quality time with her? Do you remember her when its not the holidays? Or is she just the woman that sends you the 30 spot for christmas. If you want to remember your grandma, then get your *** over to her place and spend some time with her. Do not by all means, ask her for a trust. That is her decision. And it would have a reverse effect if you would say something about how she should leave her money's. It would make her feel as if you were more interested in her money, than you are about her.
2007-01-28 18:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by Vindicatedfather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, your grandmother most likely had this taken care of when she was younger, so that she wouldn't have to worry about it when she was older. Honestly, I think you are more concerned about your financial gain, rather than her getting her affairs in order. It would not be a good idea to ask her about trust funds, she would see straight through your intentions. If your meant to get something when she passes, you will. And remember, a trust fund is a GIFT, not a requirement.
2007-01-28 18:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A few years back,my step-father had three sons who unknowingly to him took out a life insurance policy on him. My "dad" was a heavy drinker and smoker back then and had his first of three heart attacks. The next day,the sons were at our house asking for the Death Certificate to claim the insurance.Their dream of financial bliss was shattered when my mom told them their father was still alive.But it really hurt him to know his own flesh and blood would do something like this.
My dad is 88 now and has outlived two of the three sons.Look,as my mom explained to us when we were kids,"Money was here before any of us were born and it's going to be here after we're gone. The greatest treasure you can ever possess is your family". So,take my advice. Love your grandma for the person she is not for what she has.
2007-01-29 07:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother had over $3 million when she died, left it to her church and 2 universities. She left some to my dad, his siblings. We didn't really care, it was her money. The only thing that aggravated me was the way the colleges "courted" her before she died. "Begging" for money. I think they took advantage of her. Promised all sorts of things they'd do with the money but she didn't get it in writing so they spent it as they wanted in the end. And they kept it in probate so they would get more.
2007-01-28 22:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would like to see a financial memory, then take some of your own money, and donate it in her name to a church or charity that will engrave her name on a plaque, and put up for everyone to see.
2007-01-28 20:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be not very nice. Just take the money as she gives it. Put is away.. and when she is gone take the chunk of money out... and then you will have a chunk from her. It is her money and it is rude to approach her with this. I think you could approach her with an attitde of gratefullness that she loves you, that she remembers you, and that you have her
2007-01-28 18:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound creepy to me at age 29 looking to get some money from your aging grandmother who sends you some money twice a year so you can"think about her". What have you done for her or yourself lately?
2007-01-28 18:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by DrB 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it's not for financial gain, then why are you so interested in her money?
2007-01-28 18:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not ask, its' tacky, if she wants to leave you something she will. Don't expect to be supported the rest of your life by your inheritance
2007-01-28 18:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by jen19801976 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋