ex boyfriend who had broken up with me a year ago still remain friends, when ever we bump into each other meets my friend at venues & just get all charming the aggent and says to them u think u r all that, why does he even bother to talk to them, when he know they will tell me! I have feeling 4 him but wonder if my friend r also doing more damage then good! but i know it's more him that is being cold b/c he is protective but why cant he stop being charming & cold to them what does this mean? what should i do? should i confront him or protend that i dont care? i guess if he did say he wanted me back i will be by his side! i am confused & doing my head in asking myself why is he even bothering to make an effort to harrass then and be all sweet to me?
2007-01-28 09:38:29 · 22 answers · asked by hi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is his way of staying in your life, he might think that your friends are responsible in one way or another of the break up, even though you said that 'he broke up with you'
He is playing a game with you, and as long as he is nice to you and you fall for it, he will have that hold on you.
Being able to remain friends is a nice thing, in theory, but rarely does it work.
You said that if he wants you back that you would be by his side, yet again proving my point. He has a hold on you still.
If you have read any of my old questions you would now that my bf of 2 1/2 years and i recently broke it off, and he wants to be friendly. but i have learned in the past few days, that it can be on his terms only. and that doesnt work for me.
he is all nice to me in e-mails, but when he talks to others about me he makes me look like a fool. I guess what i am trying to say, is if you are over this dude, i think it' s time to move on, without him in your life.
As long as he has the 'hold' on you, you will never let another guy into your life, and you really could be missing out on someone special by holding onto the past.
Take some time to think about what i have said, i might not know your situation, but the thing i do know is mind games, i've had them played on me for way too long.
when it's over, it's over, it might hurt, but he was in your life for a reason, whatever it was, and now he's not, so take what you learned from him and apply it to a new relationship.
good luck, and when you see him again think about it, and maybe you will see that it's what he's doing.
2007-01-28 09:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may have jealousy issues with your friends. Perhap he is theatened by the importance they hold to you, perhaps he feels that they were part of the reaon for the break-up. Sometimes, in abusive relationships, the aggressor tries to separate the victim from her friends. Even though you are not together, he may still feel possessive of you. All in all, this guy doens't sound like a good person to be involved with. You want someone who will respect you and the people who are important to you. Not someone who is petty and insecure.
2007-01-28 09:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by JustTalking 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He knows that if he bugs the crap out of your friends they are going to tell you. If he possibly has feelings for you he's doing this to at least stay on the edge of your life. Maybe your friends are tryin to protect you from dating a jerk? is he only good to you?
2007-01-28 09:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by band_nerds_rock2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure know how to ramble. I was into it about half way and then BLAM... I lost it. But it's probably because you gotz some fine *** friends and the only way he has to meet them is thru you. Because like you said, you're just friends and when my friends introduce me to a girl, I generally try to get to know her because that's why they introduced her to me. I wouldn't meet the girl that was introduced to me by a friend and then try to pick up my friend..
2007-01-28 09:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by illtakealltheblame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still has feelings for you - and you have some for him, I think.
However, you guys broke up for a reason, so it would probably be better to cool the friendship for a while until you are both over eachother.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 09:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is jelous and mad that he broke up with you you and he doesent want you to forget him because he proably still has fellings for you and knowing you have good friends he acts all toufgh and that stuff so thell tell you
2007-01-28 09:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by leofire94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you he is clearly playing games with your head. And as I can tell my by this response, he is doing your head in. My suggestion, find a guy who is not a player.
2007-01-28 09:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by SphinxEyez999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck? This guy belongs in a psych ward!
2007-01-28 09:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what should you do with this issue? i would just let him do it.
what can i say? as long as your boy frioend dont make fun of your friends, then it be cool. but if he does, then that a different story.
2007-01-28 09:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wonts you so bad or he just wonts to cause trouble with your friends so that he can hurt you even more after the break up
2007-01-28 09:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋