why is my daughter afriad?

Question

Hello,
my daughter is afraid of like every single person she is afraid somone will "kidnap" her. can somone tell me how to help her?

Answer 1

1-try to introduce her to new people gradually, maybe your friends ..tell her that they are parents just like you're and they wouldn't hurt a child cause they don't want this to happen to thier kids anyway..they were kids someday too!!
2-try to improve her self defence, maybe she can learn to do karate or something
3-take her out more often, maybe she cn hang out with kids in her age and have fun..this may affect her fear and make her better
4-have a party at your home for adults and kids too..she'd meet new people
5-give her more attention and let her know that you'd be there for her anytime she needs you
** I wish I could help .. let me know when she gets better
yours,
NaNcY

Answer 2

i'm no expert, i'm sixteen and this is just my opinion.

this could have been cause by something she watched on tv. it may have even been a children's program warning kids to stay away from strangers. if this has only been going on for a short while, it could just be a phase. i would wait it out a while and see if anything changes.

If this has been going on for a while, you may want to consider taking her to see a therapist.. i know there are therapists out there who specialize in working with kids, so you'll probably want to consider one of them. Since your daughter is afraid of strangers, she will probably feel more confortable if you stay there with her the first couple times.. when you make the appointment, make sure that is ok. you could probably stay with her the first few times and hold her hand or she could sit on your lap, but after a few visits, maybe stay across the room, or leave for short periods at a time, eventually your daughter should feel comfortable enough with the therapist that she could be evaluated and she should be able to get past this.

hope this was helpful!

Answer 3

she might have seen too much tv.. talk to her about this she might have seen some oprah show or something about this. Make sure you monitor what she sees on television, and tell her that although there are people who do kidnap children, she should not be affrain of everyone. Just tell her what kind of person to look out for.

Answer 4

Your daughter may be afraid of something she saw on televison. It is actually very common. You don't want her to be scared but you don't want her to be underprotective of herself either, so make a list for her of safe and non-safe people. Say you are grogery shopping and she is afraid of the cashier, you tell her something like "Don't be afraid he is just getting our groceries." Make a list as in:

SAFE:
Aunt (name)
Uncle
Cousin
Grandma
Grandpa
Teacher
Neighbors
Police Officers
Fire Fighters
(and anyone else who she shouldn't be afraid of.)

Make sure she knows that you would never let her near someone who you didn't think was perfectly safe.

Answer 5

That sounds pretty severe, so I'd make her talk to a psychotherapist.

It's good to be careful and conscious of your surroundings, but being afraid of everyone?

Why is she afraid?

Maybe someone's been poisoning her mind, or she's been watching too many bad TV shows about that topic?

Maybe she just needs to make more friends?

Maybe her view of the world is warped?

Answer 6

I remember quite clearly going through a similar stage when I was little... its strange what you remember! I've turned out okay though! If it has been going on for a long time then seek professional advice but otherwise I'd say just offer her lots of love and make sure she has a routine bedtime and wake up time.

Answer 7

well this question depends on what you've been telling her let her play outside but let her know you're watching her let her know she is safe and out of harms way but if nothing works try talking to her or take her to a psychiatrist : now can any one help me: months ago me and my ex broke up well we go to the same school and it see,s ever since we broke up all its been is so much drama that even ur friends are becoming ur enemies what should i do so we can stop fighting? e??:

Answer 8

Get someone to kidnap her in the middle of the night, and yell and scream the whole time then lock her in a dark cellar and bang on the door every twenty minutes then you pop in and say "surprise!" that'll work TOTALLY!!!

Answer 9

well, every girl is afraid of being kidnapped! give her a cell phone, or let her carry some pepper spray, to make her feel more safe

Answer 10

Give her a talk on who is safe and who is not. Tell her that strangers are not safe , but public service people are . Help build her self esteem because that might be the problem