11 months ago i ran into this guy and we hit it off.I was still bitter about catching my ex of a few years cheating(they r mutual friends)he listened and understood,he drove me home that night and i invited him to stay,i asked him to sleep in the bed with me,he did,i asked him to put his arm around me,he did till i slept,he was so sweet.I ran into him again2 months later,he came to meand said"your killing me"my ex was also there and freaking out that we liked eachother.I sent him a text a couple weeks later and he never replied.I sawhim at a party 6 months after,he walked in saw me and looked away quick.a mutual freind sayd he likes me but is respecting his morals for the'guys'by keeping his distance.this mutual friend told me he would call him and set up a night where we can hangout w/out my ex around,he guarantees that he will be up for it.Should i give it a shot in hopes enough time has passed that he wont be timid of the ex situation?
2007-01-28 09:23:07 · 17 answers · asked by kerri r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, move on
2007-01-28 09:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Staying Quiet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen here. Your ex is simply selfish. Who dumped whom?
HE dumped you. This means he thought you are unnecessary for him, right? This is how I translate such incidents. If a person dumps you, it means he thinks you are a piece of nothing and he also WANTS to make you feel like that, which shouldn't be allowed, btw.
So.
My conclusion is that neither your to-be boyfriend, neither YOU, and especially you should NOT care for a second about what that bastard is thinking!
Let me tell you one more thing. Maybe the guy is only afraid that you were trying to use him as revenge against your ex. If you want to make any step further, you need to show him that you are STILL interested in him. Make it clear. You have got nothing to lose, you will clear the smoke and if he likes you back, he will react. Those morals don't matter in this case. Are they such close friends, really?
Go for it girl.
And never mention your ex, never! Not even for a half sentence while you two are together. If he starts that's fine, but stay neutral on the topic. If he has a problem with the existence of your ex, he should deal with it on his own. You have got no moral obligation for anyone in this story (except maybe that not trashing your ex in front of him, ahh, better don't even mention him!).
So, no obligations - no worries.
Don't worry, be happy. Get your guy and be happy.
:)
2007-01-30 07:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha. Omgosh. I have had the same thing happen to me. Well, some details are different, but amazingly similar.
If the guy likes you enough, then he won't care about your ex.
There is the whole bros before hoes rule though. (Kin to the hoes before bros ruling.)
I think you should give it a chance. Your ex is your ex. He screwed you over, and now you are single. No ex should prevent you from dating anyone - his friend or otherwise.
2007-01-28 09:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by crushinbutterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like too much trouble to me. not to mention if he's friends with your ex, that's not likely to change. Not to mention, don't think your ex hasn't filled him in on all the bad stuff about you, and even some stuff that's not true, I'm sure. This is already tainted. Move on, there's so little time, and so many many guys.
2007-01-28 09:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships on complicated to tug off. it might desire to sound mean besides the shown fact that that is needed to renounce on a romantic relationship in case you will no longer be able to confirm each that many times. it may well be extra appropriate purely to stay acquaintances and discover somebody closer to you. besides the shown fact that, in case you the two sense a reliable connection between one yet another i might say decide for it and spot the way it is going.
2016-11-01 13:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it, but make sure that neither one of you care bout ur ex. make sure that the sweet guy ur meetin will be with u w/o the nervous spacings.
so go for it, n hope ur sweet man will be up for it and take it.
if he likes u he'd like u, n go out w/ u in the open instead of on the down-low
2007-01-28 12:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems to me like its not there and your just pushing him and he's trying not to hurt you.. it'd be different if you guys actually saw eachother .. but saying you reaaly like somebody that you don't see for 6 months at a time? idno about that
2007-01-28 09:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by valerieeeann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not worth it sounds like a butty call
2007-01-28 09:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Yvette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the ex move on.good luck make yourself happy.
2007-01-28 09:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have read I think that you should not keep any hope for this guy but if you feel that you want to keep hope for this guy then just umm..... Try
2007-01-28 09:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky STUFFY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if you want something so bad you got to grab it before its to late if you can see it you can get it relation ships strong things some only comes ounce
2007-01-28 09:29:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋