I've been in a relationship a year and a half now. Its great and all, but I'm just not feeling the connection between us anymore. We went to school together but now that I gradauted and go to Jc, I dont see her all the time. I dont want to break up, but then again I kinda do, plus I've had this feeling for awhile. What do I do? I'm just so confused?
2007-01-28 09:13:24 · 25 answers · asked by caring black guy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When we talk, she tell me to say something cause i'm so silent.
2007-01-28 09:15:32 · update #1
You just need to talk to her and get all your feelings out on the table. She needs to contribute to the conversation as well. That is the only way to know what to do. But the best piece of advice is to follow your heart!!!
2007-01-28 09:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by christypooh87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you said "it's great & all" but i'm not feeling the connection anymore. That shows something is wrong & you are confused. Which is normal. it Could it be the change in the amount of time you spend together - when you have been dating someone at a relatively young age - as you age & mature you change, if the relationship isn't fluid enuff to change as you change, then it is doomed. B/c you can't expect to be happy at age 22 with the same things that made you happy at 18...You need to really think things thru & self evaluate...if you are holding on to the relationship simply b/c it's comfortable, or if it's b/c you really love this girl & can't imagine your life without her. You r the only one that can answer those ?'s...you should talk with her as well. Ask her if she feels things have changed, you may find that she too has been feeling the same kinds of things. Keep in mind you are young & have your whole life ahead of you, no need to rush & limit yourself during such an exciting time of your life.
2007-01-28 17:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by rjsluvbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't do anything in haste. Too many people are so quick to throw away their relationships just because they are feeling in a rut. Many people go through stages in their relationships. And since you stated that part of you does not want to break it off, then I wouldn't. You will definitely know if and when you are ready to end it.
You have been in the relationship for quite a while now and the excitement has died down. You are now entering the comfortable stage. THINK THINGS THROUGH before you make any decisions.
2007-01-28 17:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Marjory Stewart Baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing some romantic stuff and try to impress her like you did in the first few 'honeymoon' months, doing this often brings the spark back...
make her feel loved and usually you'll feel loved back and that's always a great feeling.
me and my boyfriend have been together just over 1 and a half years now and we've been together since school and are now in college and get to see each other much less - for us that just means that the time we do spend together is more precious and we do lots of fun, romantic stuff which keeps the spark there....but we can't wait to move in together in a year or so...it'll be great to come home to each other.
2007-01-28 17:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it will be hard to do but next time that you guys are together is this...
Have an honest and open communication with her. Tell her how you are feeling. Talk it out. See if it is something that you guys can talk and work out. Maybe a little time from each other might help too. Give you a chance to think things over without her there. It might turn out that you missed her terribly.
Just be honest. Girls appreciate that. I do.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 17:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same issue with my boyfriend. The spark in our relationship seems to have worn off. I don't get the same rushed & excited feeling when he comes over or calls me. He's quiet sometimes, and this air of silence just falls between us.
If you really love this person, then try to stick with her. Once you get into a relationship, it's inevitable that you'll get to know each other and eventually become comfortable with each other.
If this suggestion helps any, try rolling around with her on the floor and acting all playful. That might ignite that spark once again.
2007-01-28 17:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sybelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is par for the course, meaning that you don't see each other like you use to and it takes some adjustment. You should talk to her about how you feel because keeping this "feeling" from her will only hurt her more in the end if you get to the point where you just up and break it off.
2007-01-28 17:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by mymohum1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the exact truth...i always want my boyfriend to tell me if he doesnt want to be with me because i will have to accept it and we've been together almost 4 years! We ladies do understand just tell her that you feel like you arent sure about "yal" anymore and that you might be wanting to take a seperate path and if she can give you some time and see if you still feel the same for her or not!!!!! I hope everything goes well...my boyfriend did the same thing but he later ended up wanting to be with me after 3 months we werent together
2007-01-28 17:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by jessica p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when u dont see somebody much, at times its hard to just talk on the phone.There is so much u can say when u dont see them daily.Unless you just like to talk on the phone like some peps do.Maybe y'all need to try to make time to see each other more.If u have a feeling that u dont want to be with her anymore.Then maybe y'all need to take a break.I think the distance of y'all, is making you more distance towards her.It is very hard to be with somebody that u dont see when you want to.Just have a serious talk with her and tell mention how u feel.She deserves to know!!If y'all are meant to be Ya'll will be!!!!
2007-01-28 17:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe u might r losing interest in her becuz u haven't seen her in a while but when u c her again u will make the right choice to either brake up or continue goin together
2007-01-28 17:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Chris breezy and Ashanti 4 eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋