So theres this girl at my highschool that I recently have become VERY attracted to. (Not sexually, but as a girlfriend). Anyway, we know each other as acquaintances but we don't really talk to to each other. And recently, she has been on my mind all the time! Last week I tried so hard to strike up a conversation with her but I couldn't, and Ive been beating myself up all weekend because I was a wuss. I need your help girls!
How do I approach her? Im nervouss around her and I think about her all the time!! Shes pretty,,nice,friendly,outgoing. Im all those, 'cept im not outgoing.And I think she likes me too.
Please gimme a hand on this!! If I dont talk to her tommorow I think imm gonna kill myself!! (figure of speech)
I really appreciate ALL your answers! Thanks ALOT!!
2007-01-28 08:57:57 · 17 answers · asked by thats it 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks girls (and the 2 guys) for your answers. Im trying hard to follow your suggestions, but trust me it's not so easy. I can't even get her alone!
2007-01-29 14:59:43 · update #1
I know ya asked for the ladies. Dude, chill...
When your nervous it shows, girls even like it. They pick up that you like them.
If you get tounge tied, (been there done that), ask easy questions.
What did you do this weekend?
Wanna go to the mall friday?
You seen Happy Feet? (latest movie)
Why haven't we gone out yet?
2007-01-29 00:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with letter writing...it's nice and all but I think it shows her that it's an easy way out. Don't put to much thought into it or you'll psych yourself out and it won't happen. Just be casual about it and talk about something you might have in common or an interest/talent you've noticed she has. Find something to laugh about to break the tension. Also maybe there's a good movie, ball game or some school event going on so you could mention it and depending on her interest in the event say something like "yah we should go together". She'll just be excited you made a move...whatever it may be. Good luck!
2007-01-28 17:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you answer my question I'll be a hypocrit by not taking my own advice and answer yours.
You got to be smoothe, and the one thing that will kill you is nearvousness, so stop the worrying.
Remember, you got nothing to lose... Ahem.... But Just be cool, and if it was meant to be then it'll happen for sure.
You don't got nuffin to worry about because if you be yourself and she likes it, then she likes who you truly are which means that you are well respected.
As for talking to her, ask her whats up, and after all that boring stuff she answers ask her if she might wanna go out with u and sum friends somewhere for the weekend ( make it fun)
Have some fun in life, but don't do anything till after marriage.
PEACE BE TO YOU.
ISLAM ( and in our religion we dont date or nothing sexual or anything till after marriage) So I am really giving you advice I don't believe in, but if i wasn't muslim I'd probably be doing, but I am SO greatful I am a Muslim, and the way we are taught is so much better. Alhamdulilah.
Good Luck with all worldy affairs. Salaam alaikum.
2007-01-29 08:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Phlow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well a girl would like to hear it from the horses mouth, so tell her how you feel, try to catch her between class or at lunch and just simply say that you wanted to have a serious conversation and you anted to know if you could call her later that night and ask for her number.also don't beat you self up..., just turn on the charm and hope for the best. Good Luck :)
2007-01-29 08:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by Linds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so nervous! she is just like you. I know your like her a lot but try to think of her as a friend, maybe that will help. Just walk up to her and say anything, hi, how are you, etc and see where the conversation goes. You can't script what your going to say because then it always turns out bad. who know maybe you will have a lot to talk about but you will never know until you try! Good luck!
2007-01-29 08:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's this lucky lady? well, if you think she likes you too. then you're right. go talk to her. just be open, remember she's outgoing. so she probably wouldn't like the stutterers. lol but confidence shows a lot about a man. females love that. but not conceited. there's a thin line. anyways, what do you mean you don't talk to her tomorrow. is it because you haven't seen her? well trust me she'll be around before you know it. & what do you mean you're all those? are you also pretty, nice & friendly? lol ;)
2007-01-29 01:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact that girls love it when nice attractive guys are interested in them If she's interested in you, do whatever you can to let her know your extreme attraction to her. Don't be afraid or embarrassed to let her know that you are nervous (highly excited by her beauty) around her...they like knowing that, also. If you have to do it via e-mail or a love note, just do it...(though don't have some other person tell her, that could be awkward for all parties and a turn off to her. Good luck and let us know what happens. I'll be interested to know if you tried any of my suggestion and if they worked.
2007-01-30 11:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant talk to her in person then you might want to write her a letter asking her if she would like to go a movie or dinner and stick it in her locker. Have your phone number on it for her to call you. When she does call you. Force yourself to talk to her. Ask her how classes are going. What type fo movies she likes? Stuff like that. Ask about family. Just questions on getting to know her better. Dont ask all at once though. Save lots of them fo the date!
2007-01-28 17:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k.either write her a note asking if she wants to go out.if u do it secretly then tell her to call u and leave your number but tell her only to call if she wants 2 go out.if u dont do it secretly then write w/e u want.or if u decide 2 talk 2 her as in w/ ur mouth, tease her or tell her a joke.try 2 make her laugh.that always gets my attention.most girls luv funny guys.i know i do.good luck
2007-01-29 15:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by sweet.brunette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur problem is so much similar to mine...the only difference is the girl that u're attracted to is like the boy im attracted to..we go to the same school..we don't talk much..we know each other..i think he likes me..maybe he doesnt..maybe its just my imagination..i don't know..
i would go out wif him if he ask me out.. girls are scared too...girls will be girls..we get nervous as well..
i understand that to start a conversation is not easy..just be who u are...dont be scared..she wont bite..
dont get nervous..go on, show ur manly side.
2007-01-29 09:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋