I met this guy a little over a year ago. We were both instantly attracted to each other. I definitely developed a crush. We'd see each other at the same places and were always drawn towards one another.
He left the country for about 6 months. I thought about him occasionally, but still lived my life as normal. We became each others friends on MySpace and that's when I saw he was "In a Relationship." I was sad because he never told me, yet I don't remember a time when it necessarily would have come up.
Several months later, I started seeing comments on his page like, "Congratualtions on the engagement!" That when I discovered he was engaged. That was last September.
I would still see him out and, as always, his girlfriend/fiance is NEVER with him! Then, just last Friday was when the change happened. He mentioned he wasn't sure what he was doing, wants to take me to dinner, etc.
I have such strong feelings for him and I know he has feelings for me! What to do?
2007-01-28 08:57:02 · 11 answers · asked by Lizzie T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your guy has had strong enough feelings for someone else to ask them to spend the rest of their lives together. His fiance' has strong enough feelings for him to have said "yes". Looking forward, it is easy to imagine this guy messing around on his g/f, fiance', or even wife. The question is do you want to be the one who he messes around with? And if so, and you somehow get into a relationship with him, who is to say that despite very strong feelings for one another, he doesn't decide to mess around on you? Nothing from his current behavior suggests he can be trusted. I would tell him you don't get involved with guys that are already in commited relationships if I were in your shoes.
2007-01-28 09:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by B-Rabbit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always that chance, but you won't know if you don't at least share with her how you feel about her. However you can't assume that her body language is telling you she still has feelings for you. It could simply mean that she is very comfortable around you and boy friend or merely just being friends she still has a since of comfort and sureness in your presence. Your right though if you find out that her feelings are sincere and she confirms that she hasn't just settled for this guy. Then because you do love her as a person, please respect the boundary and the fact that she is engaged to him and remains to be a good friend with you. Not wishing her or him bad luck,or that you sit waiting for things to fail with their engagement. But sometimes engagements don't always work out, which is why some couples think it's wise to be engaged for a while, it allows them time to really further get to know if marriage is actually what they want.
2016-03-29 06:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be a real woman and stay away from him.If he is engaged you have no business getting together with him. Just stop for a minute and think about how you would feel if you were the fiance.It takes a very low person to get involved with someone that is already involved.If you don't have respect for yourself you should atleast have respect for his poor fiance that is obviously in the dark as to what kind of low life scum her fiance is.And another thing for you to consider is the fact that this guy would also not be faithful to you either.He has spoken loud and clear as to what his character is made up of...Don't fool yourself and think that he would treat you any different.
2007-01-28 09:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe the comments were fake...but anyways if this is real then dont jump to conclusions yet..see if he really loves u then if he does expose this to his fiance, i mean guys like these arnt worth ur time
2007-01-28 09:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Jackie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if is possibly cheating on a girl that he is engaged to...he probably not a great guy for a long term relationship. How could you ever trust him??
2007-01-28 09:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just looking to score a few more times before he gets hitched
2007-01-28 08:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by todd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his fiance's position...take the high road and back off.
2007-01-28 09:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by champagne0684 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Throw him back in the dating pool.
If he treats his fiance like this, he'll treat you like this too.
2007-01-28 09:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How could you trust a guy that never told u he was in a relation ship the suddenly he has no clue wut hes doing then asks you to dinner?
2007-01-28 09:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by leofire94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to his finance about this. truth will set you free
2007-01-28 08:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by some dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋