Do you/would you let your kids swear.?

Question

I can't stand hearing children swear. I regularly hear kids using the 'f' and 'c' words and others ( I think you get the picture) in front of their parents. You know how children are, they don't just say it, they yell it at the top of their lungs. Is it just the way things are now?

Answer 1

I don't have any kids but, if I did they would not use that kind of language in front of me.

I think it has gotten to the point where parents are so afraid to discipline their children that the kids are running rampant. I actually heard a kid threaten to report his mother for abuse when his mother smacked him for calling her a b*tch.

I'm not sure how many people agree with me....but if you spare the rod you spoil the child!! I don't agree with abuse, but I do believe that this "Time out" crap is about as effective as trying to put a fire out by spitting on it. Thats just my opinion....

Answer 2

As a teacher and a parent, I'm very aware that kids today are exposed to more profanity than ever, from TV/movies to the language from their friends, who get it from households that regularly use it. It also bothers me to hear kids swearing. Of course, I believed probably up until seventh grade that if I swore, a lightning bolt would strike me down where I stood.

I don't swear much at all, and certainly never in front of kids, my own or anyone else's. On my Sanyo VCR/DVD players, there is a "family filter" function. This function reads the closed captioning (whether it is visible or not) and will turn off the sound whenever a curse word (or, depending on how strict you set it, even words like "turd") appears. I use it in my classroom and at home, and it's great.

My philosophy is that kids hear that stuff from enough places in their lives. They don't need to hear from me or something I have control over.

Answer 3

Yah...what is the world coming too....
I as a parent could not allow my children to swear. It's only the child's fault though if they use it after being disciplined not to.
Most of the blame rests with parents who swear in the presense of their children and do not take the time to explain its wrong and change their own behavior.
Unless in a moment of extreme surprise or aggitation there is no reason to consciously use those words. I know in the heat of something I might have said it, but then its VERY rare and it's never (if avoidable) in front of young children.

The solution starts with parents, then will trickle down to children...after all kids just imitate what they see and hear.

Answer 4

They probably learnt to swear from their parents. Most kids of about the age 3 can distinguish naughty words. If the naughtiest word they know is poo, that is the word they are going to use. They do it to shock (like tantrums) - that is why some parents do not react - to negate the shock value. If they are using the words in everday conversation it needs to be stepped on and corrected, and that needs to be done by example
You need to understand that kids see that these words work for adults, so they copy.

Answer 5

I hear it, too, and it's ridiculous. The parents are allowing the child to swear because the parent is ignorant of the consequences to the child, and the impression it leaves about them. My sister thought it was "cute" when her son cussed at the age of 4. I would come to her house and say, "Hi Ronnie, can I have a hug"?, and he would say, "Shut up, Bit**". My sister laughed. Well, when he went into first grade, and the teacher told him to sit down, what do you think his response was? Yep. His foul language was encouraged, promoted, and endorsed by my sister, and it caused nothing but trouble for him. Other parents didn't want him at their house, teaching their kids to curse, and the disrespect he showed the teachers, (and other authority figures, including my mother) reflected on my sister. If we had used that kind of language at home, we would have shortly found ourselves incapable of any speech at all. (Hard to talk with all that soap in your mouth.) Unfortunately, kids are being unindated with foul language. TV, movies, and even video games incorporate adult language into every day situations and conversation. How do the kids know it is improper if everyone they associate with uses it? Some "progressive" parents think that ignoring bad language will cause the child to stop using it. They are thinking that the child is doing it for the dramatic effect. To some extent, this is true. Some kids do say naughty things to get the attention, but those kids KNOW not to use the language. That is different from a kid who hears it daily, and is never corrected.

Answer 6

Yes, it is the way it is now, among very trashy people, that is. I do not allow my children to swear and if a child is at our house and swears, I make him go home, telling him, "I do not allow that language in this house." Believe me, they learn -- it happens only once.

I hate hearing children use horrible language, and it is rampant now. It's indicative of an overall decline in courtesy and respect. I do a lot of substitute teaching and the kids regularly use the worst sort of language in the classroom. I write it down for the regular teacher: "Kimberly thought it was necessary to scream "f**" in the classroom." "Billy screamed 'kick the effing ball' on the playground." I don't know if there are consequences when the regular teacher returns, though.

All we can do is set an example by not using foul language ourselves and not hesitating to reprove a child when he/she does.

Answer 7

No, it would not be aloud and it isn't in my household we have a cuss jar we have to put 25 cents in every time we say a curse word. Including the adults how can we expect the kids to behave them selves if we act like kids ourselves kids model what they see.

Answer 8

Im not old enought to have children, but when I do have them, I would definatly not want them to swear. It just looks bad on the parents & children. I will admit it, I swear, but only when I am fuming mad. I dont use it in every other sentence I say or anything. Its a bad habit thats hard to break. I will defiantly teach my children not to swear......

Answer 9

My son never swears in front of us but I have listened in when he has had friends around and he does swear around them but not too much.

Answer 10

I recognize that cussing is just part of the puberty process. The day before my daughter started middle school, I sat her down with a list of words she would hear at school (words I know she had not seen or heard before as she had been homeschooled) I told her to go say them in front of a mirror and to realize how nasty it sounded to hear those words comming out of her mouth. It worked, because she is always scolding her friends for cussing, lol. Its all to comonplace on tv too. Hard to avoid. I would rather she hears about unpleasant things from me rather than someone else. So far, its worked.