I have a toddler who turned two in august. She sleeps with her pacifier and that is it. If it is missing, she will cry in her bed for 2 hours straight until somehow it turns up. I cut a whole in the tip of it so there is no longer any suction, but she still likes it in her mouth. Again she only sleeps with it and it doesn't come out of her bed. Did you worry about it or did you take it away? If so, how did you do it and how long did your little one scream about it?
2007-01-28 08:23:14 · 23 answers · asked by kelliemag 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The pacifier is obviously a source of comfort to her. I didn't take my daughter's away from her. I waited for her to outgrow her need for it which she did before the tuned three and SHE threw it out. Why a parent would want to remove a source of comfort from their child baffles the mind.
2007-01-28 08:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 6⤋
I can give you my own experience. My parents allowed me to keep a pacifier until I was six and entered kindergarten! Then the only took it away because the school would not allow it. Anyway, the palate in my mouth (the bony hard part at the roof of your mouth) and the angulation of my jawbones didn't grow right during toddlerhood because of the presence of the pacifier. The pressue of it in my mouth caused it to the bones to grow along the line of the pacifier instead of the tongue, and I couldn't speak properly. Only my family could understand me. So anyway, I was in speech therapy at school three time a week, probably until I was in jr high or so. I speak fine now, but the roof of my mouth is still misshapen, and the ortho surgeon saws I will enventually need jaw surgery requiring them to wire it into proper position x 6 weeks! Oh well, I'm 40 now and doing well without it so I'm waiting. But with your little one, speak to your pediatrician about gradually withdrawing the pacifier. 2yrs old is usually when experts recommend discontinuing it's use. A pacifier does supply a pysiologocal need for nonnutritive sucking in the first couple of years, but that need does go away, and then the presence of a pacifier just becomes a habit. And like any other habit, with a little effort it can be changed! Good luck!
2007-01-28 08:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Amy H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's what we did with our daughter, she only had the pacifier when it was sleep time. She was still two and using it, and would never use it out of bed. Before she even turned 3 she no longer wanted it. What happened was there was only one pacifier she wanted and we could no longer find that style to buy. Hers started getting pretty yucky looking so we finally cut a tiny part of the tip of it off. The night we did that our daughter stuck it in her mouth, pulled it ou, looked at it, then threw it out of bed. She never asked for a pacifier again after that. So you could try cutting the tips off of all of hers. Good Luck, but don't worry, as long as she's not using it at the age of 4 she'll be okay.
2007-01-28 08:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have 2 1/2 year old twins and they also only get to use their pacifiers in their beds while sleeping or in a rare case when the just need "quiet time" if they are having a rough day.( in their beds) I too am trying to wean them off. I always have "back ups" so I've never experience the crying about it, but do expect it when we decide to get rid of them. I think we are going to "give them to a baby who needs them...and send them off in the mailbox or something.
and as for the suction part of ...my little ones dont mind if it has a hole in them as long as they have it in their mouths. Good luck!
our goal is to end using them by their 3rd b-day.
2007-01-28 12:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by mother of twins 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. We finally were able to get my son's binky off of him right before he turned 3. First we told him that when he bit a hole in it, then he wasn't getting another. Of course we caved because he screamed and screamed when he went to bed. Finally the only thing that worked was telling him that only babies get binky's and asking him if he was a baby or a big boy. He was fine without it after that.
It would be beneficial to get her off of it as soon as possible, even though it's only at bedtime. That's the only time my son took one after he turned a year old and now when he went to the dentist for the first time, they told us that he has a bilateral cross bite and sucking on sippy cups and binky's is probably the cause of it. He's going to have something done to widen the space at the back of his mouth when he gets a little bit older. He also has to attend speech therapy because it's very hard to understand most of his words. I'm not sure if that's from the binky or not.
2007-01-28 16:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son had his pacifier until after his third birthday. He was the same as he only had it at night. We started talking about the "paci fairy". Similar to the tooth fairy. He had to put all of his pacifiers under his pillow and in the morning he would find a toy and the paci fairy would take the pacifiers. We just talked about it and told him to tell us when he wanted her to come. He came to us about a week later and said he was ready. He got a Buzz lightyear lazer thing and other than a few mentions of the pacifier, all was good!! He even went to sleep withouth problems that next night!! Hope this idea helps.
2007-01-28 10:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jen F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no longer at in user-friendly words 2 years previous no, esp. because that's in user-friendly words at the same time as she sleeps, i imagine by technique of the time they are 3 years previous is the present a baby must have the pacifier. also it relies upon on what form that is, some are not undesirable for tooth cuz of ways they are formed. I babysat a lil woman who had hers til she become 5/a million/2 years previous (way too previous) and the dentist advised her mom she would have it til she all started loosin her infant tooth, cuz of the type it become, which sorry i do not recognize what type of pacifier that is that she has although. wish this facilitates and robust success, :D.
2016-12-03 04:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by lesniewski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doctors and dentists recommend that a child not have a pacifier past the age of two, and that by that age they no longer have the innate sucking desire of a baby. The best advice I have heard is to either cut the nipple compeltely off and tell your child it is "broken", or throw them all away, tell your child that you gave the binkies away to babies, and then tough out the screaming for a couple days. It might suck, but once its done its done. DONT GIVE IN or you just have to start all over
2007-01-28 08:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My son had his pacifier til he was old enough to understand what i was saying (about 2 and a half)... he only had it at bedtimes, so i used a method whi ch has worked in my family for generations...
at Christmas, i let my son put the star on top of the tree, and i told him that he had to hang his pacifier (he called it a dummy) on the tree under the star, so that another little boy or girl could have it. He hung it up, went to bed, he was fine...
...the first few weeks after that, he kept asking about it, so i just kept reminding him about the christmas tree, and that another little boy or girl now has it.
It doesnt matter the childs age... health visitors are advising parents not to give their children pacifiers at all, but its ok... my son had his for years and it never affected his teeth or the way he talks. Just go with what your daughter feels comfortable with... dont break her heart by taking it away, she probably wont understand that, and itll almost be like losing a good friend to her... do it really slowly, you know your daughter better than anyone, so go with what you feel she is comfortable with. Dont get frustrated if shes not doing very well to begin with, its just a pacifier, its not affecting the way she is being brought up... and the more you worry about it, the harder it is for you both.
Wish i could help more, and good luck... big hugs for the both of you xxx
2007-01-28 08:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I would personally leave her alone about the pacifier a few more months. It certainly beats thumb sucking. After she is a little older and can understand, maybe you can have a "no more pacifier" celebration with her and trade the pacifier for something else she could be comforted by, like fore-instance a special stuffed animal or soft doll.
2007-01-28 08:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Our daughter will be 2 on Feb 22, she still inisists on having her pacifiers as well. Our pediatrician told us that after 2 is when we should start seriously considering taking it away for good because of dental reasons. Try having a serious talk with her about it and have HER throw them away in the trash can. I would replace the pacis as night with a favorite stuffed animal....
2007-01-28 08:29:38 · answer #11 · answered by bob8763763 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋