my ex boyfriend likes me and i like him a lot too. he went out with another girl but broke up with her because he said she couldn't compare to me and he still likes me a ton. well we have been talking/hanging out for a little longer than 2 months. i was supposed to hang out with him yesterday but i couldnt my uncle was sick. i missed all of his phone calls and i came back to look at my phone and see text messages that said "pick up your f*****g phone" "it would help if you picked up your phone"...i dont know it just really bothered me that he swore at me. i told him my uncle was sick and he said sorry but i dont know...why would he swear at me and get so mad over just hanging out? is that weird? is he too clingy?
2007-01-28 08:12:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont think hes too clingy! i mean he couldve been worried about you or something! ya know! it could mean alot of things!!!!!!!
2007-01-28 08:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, the best advice I can give you is to not even deal with this sort of thing. You are not even dating and he's speaking to you like this now. Things will only get worse. Trust me. You guys are in the non-dating state, where the guy should be tryin to get the girl, and sweet-talking her, and winin' and dining you, not swearing at you and making demands at you, as if you are to listen. If he's doing this now, dont even bother to re-date him. I'm not sure what happened before as to why you two broke up in the first place. But obviously there are reasons. You do not deserve to be demanded and sweared at, especially this early on. Walk away now, while the feelings are still not on a high. He got really upset about you missing your "hang out" cause he felt stiffed, and therefore felt powerless, sounds like this guy drives on feeling powerful. YOU DESERVE MORE HUN.
2007-01-28 08:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by FIT-GAL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, I think you're boyfriend is intimidated by you. He knows that you're a wonderful girl with a nice personality, and he's afraid that you'll leave him for someone else. As for the language, I'm sorry, but your boyfriend is rude and talks like a barbarian. You shouldn't let him treat you like that. You deserve much better. Especially, since you took him back. You didn't have to, but you did. He's clingy and very possessive. He's also very selfish, believing that he's your first priority. Honestly, and please don't take this into offense, you deserve someone who's sweet, nurturing and totally respects you and talks to you as if you're a human being. Not an animal!
2007-01-28 08:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your ex then he is your ex for a reason.People fail to understand that when they break up that is exactly what they are supposed to do.Cut all ties..If he is clingly that is only because you are allowing him to be.You are allowing him to still think that he has a right to know what you are doing.You can stop all of this by simply getting him out of your life.I would never tolerate any man swearing at me I have more respect for myself.You need to decide if he is gonna be your ex or if you want to prolong your agony and get back together with him.
2007-01-28 08:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not have meant it the way he said it. Only you know what kind of personality he has. It sounds like he wants to know where you are when he doesn't hear from you. maybe he has been hurt in the past and is a little untrusting. You haven't been going out that long? These are just my opinions as I do not know him.
2007-01-28 08:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's disrespecting you, and you should get out of this now. You don't deserve to be spoken to like that no matter what's going on.
He's not too clingy. He sounds possessive. Be safe and don't stand for anything less than men you respect and men who respect you.
Best,
Feather Ives
2007-01-28 08:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by featherives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs anger management for swearing over a little thing like that.
he should trust that u would have a important issue to take care of and thats why u flaked.
he should find other things to do
but if u flake, u should try to make the effort to at least inform him. it only takes a few seconds.
because if he did that to u, u probably would be angry too. but no need for swearing.
2007-01-28 08:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by loveithateit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, his message is definitely a red, obvious sign of codependency issues. Now that you have this sign and the bad feeling in your gut, are you going to go your own way OR are you going to blow this off and regret it later, when it gets worse? Be smart. Ever decision we make determines the quality of our future.
2007-01-28 08:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might think your back together...hes not clingy he was just worried and angry at the fact that u killed his night. because of you he didnt do nething else im sure. The swearing is not a big deal, its just a guy thing
2007-01-28 08:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by Hurt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea. Possessive and clingy. Keep it casual awhile. If it don't feel right, get away. Try talking to him to explain what and why you feel the way you do. If he makes an effort to change.ok. If not. Look elsewhere.
2007-01-28 08:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by Kadidnt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's cussing at you like that, you definitely shouldn't get back together. He wants you to make him the center of your life, and thinks that all your time should be devoted to him. I think he just wants to use you, and you'll definitely be wasting your time on him if you two get back together.
2007-01-28 08:20:01 · answer #11 · answered by M L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋