husband problems?

Question

My Bestfried has a "momma's boy" for a husband. She says that she does not feel important anymore and he is always comparing her to his sister, telling my bestfriend that she is jealous of his sister. Now i'm not sure what to tell her. He thinks his sister is so "beautiful" but she's more so flaunts herself around trying to act as though she's all that even though this chick is married.

What shuold she do... how can this be solved. Plus he tells his mom everything and she thinks he may even be keeping secrets that he won't tell her that the family talks about

why would a guy compare his "wfie" to his sisiter?

Answer 1

Tell her to stay strong. If he married her it should have been for who she is not who he wanted her to be. If she starts changing to be what he wants what will she have left? If you can't be yourself with your spouse than who can you be yourself with? She should tell him that their marriage would be much stronger if they could work things out together. She should never ever talk badly about his family never ever! That will only put her in the wrong. As long as she stays true to herself she can hold her head up high with or without him.

Answer 2

Gosh- it's hard to tell if the inlaw or the hubby is the primary source of the problem. (i think it is both). The hubby doesn't have the "backbone" to stand on his own as the man of the house & be a part of the new family unit that began when they took their vows. As for the "sister-n-law", it's vital that the wife not show any jealousy or insecurity around her nor around the husband when he talks about her. This only perpetuates the cycle. The most important thing is that your friend needs to sit the hubby down and have a very serious (make it or break it) conversation. (&she must be prepared to leave if the conversation doesn't produce results)....If she says it & then doesn't follow thru, this will let the hubby know that he can do anything, & no matter what she says - she doesn't mean it (in other words, her words are meaningless)...your friend needs desperately to tell her hubby that he is married to her, that she thinks it is wonderful that he & his sister are so close & that he is so supportive of his sister, however, she has her own life, and they have their life. That she doesn't like being compared to her all the time, no more than he would appreciate being compared to her father..(whom she adores and loves & has been her hero all her life, and how no man could ever measure up to her father...etc...you know how us Daddy's Girls feel)...well, then end the talk with "we got married in order to build a life, a family of our own, that our parents could be proud of & be a part of, i was serious about that, the question is...are you? b/c if you aren't prepared to committ yourself 100% to this marriage, i am prepared to end it, b/c i will not settle for a % of you being in this marriage, it's all or nothing sweetheart.!

Good Luck...

Answer 3

that is gloomy because what i'm wondering about is what you already know. He has a ingesting difficulty and the in user-friendly words component that would want to help him is at the same time as he includes the concept he has a ingesting difficulty. at the same time as he does this then you surely can attempt counseling notwithstanding the in user-friendly words way that he will bypass is at the same time as he's conscious that he has a difficulty and admits it. He might want to have his down cases and his strong ones i imagine that you should attempt chatting with him in user-friendly words at the same time as he's sober. at the same time as he's sober and has had a strong little bit of counseling then you surely want to artwork on your relationship. Relationships are demanding to carry on to at the same time as there's a habit contained in the blend. i recognize that you want him so carry on as a lot as you may because trust it or no longer he loves you too. Its demanding to exhibit you want someone once you've an habit i recognize this because i turned right into a smoker and my husband hated it. He hated how i might want to acted at the same time as i become out and mandatory a smoke really undesirable or how I smelled and when I were given pregnant properly that's yet another tale lets merely say I had no decision. Even the human beings at artwork might want to have my head.

Answer 4

The fourth sentence of your post is written so confusingly that it makes it totall impossible to understand what you are trying to say in it. Tied my brain in knots just trying to decypher it. By the time that happened, my brain was so knotted up, I couldn't even begin to try to figure out any advice to give you. I was just feeling so totally confused. Maybe try straightening that sentence out so that it reads in such a way that an inteligent person could understand it and you may get some better answers. Sorry. Please try again.
Jon

Answer 5

What your best friend needs to do is to decide whether the advantages of being married to this goon outweigh the bad side. She has to be responsible for her own decision; you should not make it for her.

Answer 6

so what is this guy gonna do? cheat with his sister??? and why doesnt she ask for the help??? she really has nothing to worry about because this is a family situation..

Answer 7

He compares his wife to his sister? There is something SERIOUSLY wrong with that..

Answer 8

tell your friend,that she should thearten to divorce him if they dont start talking about there problem and try to reslove it!!!!

Answer 9

She'll work it out all on her own.