My ex boyfriend and I are both teens but hes 9 months younger then me. It was both are first relationship. He had talked about marriage with me and wanting to be with me forever. We barley got any alone time and rarley went on dates. He didn't have a car. The only time we really got to talk was online and the only time we really got to see each other was at school. I really believe in my heart that he is the one for me but that maybe it was just the wrong time to start a relationship. We are still friends, but is there a possibility that when he's a bit older that we might be able to work?
2007-01-28 08:00:22 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he wanted to break up because he was confussed, he wasn't ready for a relationship, and that we weren't meant to be, that we didn't "mesh" well.
2007-01-28 08:01:29 · update #1
There's no real way to predict how well you will 'mesh' in the future because you will both change quite a bit in the next few years. The best way to find out though is to stay friends with him. You may grow closer as you both figure out who you really are and where you want to go in life and decide to build a life together or you may decide that being friends is the way you fit best. The 9 month age difference won't matter at all in a few years either but it does now. Unfortunately, girls tend to mature a bit faster than boys LOL. So just take it easy, be his friend and have fun finding out who he really is and who you are.
2007-01-28 08:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by GatorGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls mature between 18-13, guys unfortunately between 10-16 so the fact that you were with someone a little younger surprises me, most of the time you see girls with much older guys, anyways theres always a possibility for something further but the longer you have to wait the more it becomes less and less what you want, I mean think your only a teen you have so long to meet other guys, have lots of relationships with different types, maybe a break up was so that the two of you could do that then realize you only want each other and have a fairly tale ending : ) Good luck
2007-01-28 08:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rockell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, and I know you've heard this, you're just too young to make these life-long decisions when you're only a teen. I understand where he's coming from if you're talking about forever.
I'd rather see you go on to become an excellent, intelligent woman who has more to offer a partner (and the world for that matter) before talking forever.
I guarantee you if he disappeared for five years, and suddenly reappeared you would be such a different person and you would see him differently and probably not be attracted to him at all. Just enjoy your youth. Spend less time worried about getting some man to love you. Love yourself first and worry about him after you're where you want to be.
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2007-01-28 08:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by featherives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're BOTH too young!
How can you know that a person is "the one" when you have absolutely nothing else to compare it to? And how can you plan to be with someone for the rest of your life when you have absolutely no idea what you plan to do with your life?
It's certainly possible that, after some time has passed, you'll meet up again and decide to date, and that will lead to something more serious. But it's infinitely more likely that by that point you'll both have dated several other people and realized how immature you initial feelings were.
2007-01-28 08:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be many people in your life you will MESH with, feeling like they are Meant to be, but it's might not be THIS lifetime. There is a reason you met up with each other and while time could tell down the line, you need to be glad you met and are still friends and find yourself & the others that you will make a connection with.
2007-01-28 08:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay sweetie you sound very young and this is advice I would give to my own daughter. You have your whole life to live so enjoy it and get out and meet other people. You are too young to be thinking about settling down with anyone right now, you don't know what the future hold for you. Don't settle for the first thing that comes into your life because again you don't know what the future hold. Another thing that I've learned over the years is when a man is talking please listen carefully because they are telling you exactly what they want and how they want it, we as women sometimes ignore what they are saying because we feel like we can "change" them or change they way they feel but it rarely ends successfully, he doesn't feel like you "mesh" with him then let him go. It sounds to me like you are hurting over this and hoping that one day he will come to realize that you are the one for him but that's probably not going to happen......hang out with your friends and do what teenage girls do.....go to parties, to the mall and to the movies....keep yourself busy....live life and have fun doing it. You will soon realize that he wasn't good enough for you anyway. Move on so that you will have no regrets........
2007-01-28 08:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give each other some space if you guys stay friends that's great, and if not just remeber that it wasn't meant to be. You both sound realy young so maybe he really was telling the truth and is not ready for a relationship. Maybe when you're both older it MAY work out but by then you may met someone even better:)
Now please answer my question:)
Good luck:)
2007-01-28 08:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Hottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like he was feeling the same way you were that you never get to spend time together and you rarely talk. Instead of telling you that you need to works things out and try to make time for each other he just decided to end the relationship. You could try to talk to him and restore the relationship but maybe you guys do need time and obviously it wasn't a good time for the two of you.
2007-01-28 08:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by just ask me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you are still in your teens, so I think that you are both too young to think about marriage. Also, you haven't had a chance to have a nomal relationship outside of school and the internet. You should remain friends and see what happens as you get older.
2007-01-28 08:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to experience many more relationships before you get married... You need to learn what you like and don't like, what you will put up with. How to communicate, how NOT to communicate. You can do this best by being with many different people.
YOu may date him in the future, but time heals everything. You probably won't want to !
2007-01-28 08:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋