I asked him out and at first he said maybe and then he said no and now he is ging out with this really weird girl. Why did he say no?
2007-01-28 07:57:23 · 62 answers · asked by amelia71895 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cause your ugly
2007-01-28 08:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
The bad news is, he's just not that in to you.
The good news is that you just learned an important lesson in opportunity cost. You took the chance to talk to this guy and at first it may seem like you lost big time (but that's where you'd be wrong). What you have gained is the opportunity to move on to someone else who may actually be worthy of your time and attention. You've gained the companion benefit of not being hung up on someone who lacks the intelligence and refinement to appreciate you. If you had never asked you'd probably still be stuck in a rut so deep you could hang posters.
SO... Congratulations. Take a little time out to compose yourself and then get back out there. Follow your crushes, do your thing, live your life with passion. The reality is that boys between 13 and 25 are pretty much worthlessly self absorbed. Protect your heart first but try to have a good time doing it. It may be ten years before this guy is developed enough to kick himself in the @ss for what he walked away from. By then, you'll be with someone who is treating you right and his opportunity will be forever unrealized.
2007-01-28 08:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by Goofy Foot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the real question is why did he say maybe? He should have just been up front and said no in the first place because it would have hurt less. He could have said he was seeing someone else and you and your friends could have made fun of the weird girl and it wouldn't have hurt as much. It could have been that he didn't want to hurt your feelings, but I would bet that he was keeping you around for a back up - someone to have there in case it didn't work out with sideshow bob. Guy's don't always realise that girl's get hurt easily. Cut your losses and be glad that you didn't go out on even one date with a guy who would date someone that you think is so strange.
2007-01-28 08:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by flutterby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are special and would be a gift and a blessing in any ones life.
'''' i bet this guy just might not be what you think he is.
confidence is attractive not vanity.
desperation and clinging scares anyone away.
love to love yourself and strive to be all you can be.
bloom where you are planted.
happiness does not come from another person or possession but within.
you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink
we all have a free will and you cant force someone to like you or go out with you. life tough sometimes
one day you may run in to him when you are older and Thank God he didn't go out with you and laugh about it.
Here are two books that will answer your questions and help you.
They will save you a lot of grief on down the line if you read and apply these principals to your life.
Boundaries in dating by john ma cloud should be required reading
loving smart by Dr Phil
don't hang after him! be strong turn your back and walk away
2007-01-28 08:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by tennessee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he said No, I'd just move on and not worry too much about why. Maybe, he just doesn't feel the same way. There's probably sometime about the 'weird' girl he finds attractive, maybe they have a history, you never know.
2007-01-28 08:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by JackLyN___ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he need treatment and you can give him he know that you like him like crazy so he never give you a dam so follow simple rule
start ignoring him for some time don't give him a dam pretend that you are not even see him treat him like he is not even there in front of you after few days he ask you is everything alright ??? then give him very simple answer that you are busy these days then after that try to drag his attention towards you like if he is near to you say oh hello!!! how are you??? gosh!! i didn't notice that you are here???
try to be a Mysterious for him don't let him know whats your next move will be BUT ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT let him make the first move
and just maintain your self esteem girl
just believe in your self
and soon your going to rock him
and just give yourself makeover and makes his eyes stop on you
okay don't worry
2007-01-28 08:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by GHaZaL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he said maybe in case the weird girl didn't want to date him. He said no because she said yes. Just bad timing.
2007-01-28 08:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You made it too easy for him. Men like to pursue. It is in our nature. Ever heard of the hunter/gatherer society? Men like to "earn" our women. We do not want them served to us on a platter.
Here is some advice for the next time you like a guy. Talk to him, be yourself, and compliment him. If he is interested in you he will make that known. If he is not interested he will not pursue you. If he is too shy to make a move you probably do not want to be with him anyway. Oh and do not limit yourself to one guy. This is a numbers game. Talk to and get to know as many guys as you can. Eventually one that you like will reciprocate your feelings. Have fun.
2007-01-28 08:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's just the kind of guy who likes weird girls. Fortunately their are a lot more guys out there to pick from.Good Luck!
2007-01-28 08:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys would be lucky to be asked out by a girl when it's the guy's job to ask the girl out!!!
The answer is simple he is either an idiot or gay or BOTH!!!
2007-01-28 08:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by computer_guidance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want a boy to like you , you must be interested and support whatever he loves then act uninterested in the boy,
works everytime the boy will chase you
maybe the weird girl is fun and takes him seriously or listens to him
2007-01-28 08:04:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋