he is very jealous and doesnt let me go anywere without him. also i am constantly being accused? normal?
2007-01-28 07:53:25 · 44 answers · asked by Lexi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah normal for an immature little boy with jealousy issues...dump him, you cant let someone control you...he is not grown up enough to handle a girlfriend...period...
2007-01-28 07:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes its normal.usually when u are constantly being accused the other spouse is guilty of something,more than likely cheating.guys can be selfish and very insecure just as females can. if you are a faithful person and he knows it but still doesnt trust you then you shouldnt be with that person.everyone should have some type of freedoms even in relationships. they are built on trust,so if there is no trust then what do u really have?you have one daddy not 2.so he cant tell you where u can and cannot go without him. im sure he would trip if you did the same to him. live your life. life is too short to be stressed and unhappy
2007-01-28 10:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are not fighting with him, ask if you can talk to him about something that is bothering you. Tell him your fears. Do not say "you do" or "you always" say I am afraid when you act this way. Try not to put him on the defensive because this will just lead to a fight. Try to let him know that you are there because you want to be there not because you have to be. Let him know that violence will get him nowhere and that you will not tolerate it. Try and suggest getting couples counseling or anger management classes. Let him know what you want, need, and expect from him in your relationship. Find out what he wants, needs and expects from you. If this is something you can agree on, great. If it isn't, then the best thing is to end now before either of you gets hurt any worse than you already have. Lots of luck.
2016-03-29 06:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out while you can. He sounds to controlling. You dont want that for the rest of your life do you? And its not right of him constantly accusing you. You should turn around and do the same thing he is doing to you. And see how he feels if not get out of the relationship its not normal for some one to have a bad temper on where you go without out him.
2007-01-28 07:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what i call an inferiority complex. He has it toward u.
U must be too cute,sexy or attractive for him.
He loves u a lot and so always fears of losing u....in every steps.
It's a feeling of inadequancy which he has, which reflects in his behavior in accusing and being jealous towards u.
If u really love him and want to be with him for the rest of ur life then help him shake away this fear out from him.....for good.
If u cannot do so.....i advice....leave him....cause, if his inferiority complex stays on, u will find urself in lots of troubles, in everystep after ur married life.
2007-01-28 12:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by naafraat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not normal. He is extremely insecure. It will most likely get worse before it gets better. A person who is so consumed with your activities is actually consumed with him/herself. While it may see that he is interested in you, he is actually caught up with himself. Someone in that state really doesn't have the capacity to genuinely care for another and be in a good relationship.
A healthy relationship consists of mutual trust, respest, and support. He is not respecting your personal space boundaries, can probably not be counted on to support you in things that threaten him, and he definitely does not know how to trust. Sometimes, the untrusting are the most untrustworthy.
There are various degrees of this kind of behavior and some insecurity is normal and acceptable. But he is way overboard. You stand to get hurt. Might want to save yourself early.
2007-01-28 08:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by JustTalking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not normal and shouldn't be tolerated either. I have been through a similar situation and take it from me, there is no changing him and it really isn't worth it to stay. If you can leave him do so as soon and safely as possible. The problems will only escalate! I would also suggest you going and speaking with someone so that you don't just end up in a cycle of abusive relationships. Good luck!
2007-01-28 07:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nickie N 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK, why are you asking us??? Does it sound normal to YOU??? Your boyfriend sounds possessive and contolling, and that is NOT normal, period. You should never feel as if are "owned" or trapped in relationship, or as if you can't do anything without having your boyfriend mad at you, or as if you must always be together. You need to break up with this guy, and you need to do it now. It's not a healthy relatonship, and you deserve so much better. So do yourself a favor and DUMP HIS ***!!!!
2007-01-28 08:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ misschels ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
50%-75% of men usually have tempers. Some guys who are very sweet and loving like to go with the flow and find out what the girls like and do not like. While other guys like to be controlling (as in your case) because the feel insecure about the women they are dating. They think because she is so beautiful that another man might come and sweep her off her feet if the boyfriend is not with them. So in order to prevent this that's why the guy tags along.
In your case if you really feel uncomfortable about it then tell him that you don't like to be controlled and accused. This is not a healthy relationship. You need to discuss your matter before it gets way out of hand. Or the best for you is to break it off with him. You need to look after yourself and be happy. Not accused and controlled and miserable.
Good Luck.
MJ
2007-01-28 07:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The only type of guy you are dealing with has issues in himself that he needs checked out before he either hurts you, himself or someone else. Most of the time when you are being accused constantly of doing something and you know you aren't is when they are guilty of something themselves! You can't go anywhere because he can't control you out of his eyesight and when it gets to the point that you can't go anywhere without him then, you need to be without him altogether.
2007-01-28 08:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! that is not normal... I know you love him very much, but think about it... do you really want to spend the rest of your life like this? Don't think... I can't see myself without him...
I would GET OUT befor eit escalates, and I guarantee you that it will. There are MANY nice men out there, that will not control you and will not abuse you, because this is ABUSE
Another thought... Most jealous people are that way because they know what they would be doing in certain situations. He can't trust you because he knows he is a scumbag. He is acusing you of the things he is actually doing...
GET OUT HUN. Its not normal
2007-01-28 07:58:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋