my b/f is always hurting my feelings but what do i do to make him stop without breaking up with him?
2007-01-28 07:41:37 · 16 answers · asked by blackwolfdemon_alyssa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him and let him know that he is hurting your feelings. If he continues, then move on to better things! Good Luck!
2007-01-28 07:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Is he fully aware that what he is doing hurts you?
Second, Is there any chance you two are misunderstanding each other?
Finally, If he does know, then IS he doing these things purposely (trying to control or belittle someone) or is he not trying to hurt you, but not being considerate of you either?
If the former is true then, ask yourself this: why do you want to be with anyone if they consistently hurt your feelings?
Please consider yourself.
We show people how we want to be treated whether we realize it or not. If you had a friend being treated that way in her relationship, would you tell her she deserves more respect? Consider Yourself.
(You cannot "make" someone stop a behaviour. If they dont stop after you tell them to stop; they never will.)
The only way to "stop" this behaviour is to remove yourself from the problem and figure out why you allowed someone to treat you like that. Then, in your next relationships, you should keep in mind...you are a beautiful and intelligent woman; not a doormat.
2007-01-28 08:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by missmandie3355 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is Aglow of Feelings.
In it One always make higher Expectation from next person.
First avoid making Expectations.
Try to be Happy How much he is doing for you.
You make him realize that How much you Love him.
But don't give him chance to rule on you.
If he really Loves you then he will Turn to your feeling very soon.
Best thing once just tell him how much you got heart due to him but the same time tell him that you can't live without him. and just add one more sentence that now you are being use to of this(hearting by him) You are making habit of it.
Saurabh.
Stay Cool And Keep Smiling....!
2007-01-28 08:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Chocolate Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is hurting you, and he knows he is hurting you, and does nothing to do better the next time, this is abuse. You are doing yourself no favors by staying with him. Your unwillingness to let go of him only sends the message that his abuse is aceptable bahavior and he will keep doing it and getting worse over time.
Tell him if he keeps treating you this way, you will break up with him. If he can't promise to do better (and follow up on it) then leave his insensitive butt and find a better life for yourself.
You deserve better!
2007-01-28 07:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just insecure. He's trying to make you feel bad to make himself feel better. I think that you should break up with him. I know that you don't want to but honestly you should. You don't deserve to be treated this way. There is a guy out there who will treat you with the upmost respect and love.
2007-01-28 07:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a better one! Why don't you want to break up with him? Why do women tolerate and sometimes seek men who are abusive? Why do battered wives not leave or press charges? What is so attractive about the bad boy who is disrespectful to women? Why do we as a society accept and praise music that glorifies the mistreatment of women ? Why does our culture find it acceptable and even humorous to refer to women in demeaning and derogatory terms? We, all born of mothers,forget our debts and obligations.What is wrong with us?
2007-01-28 07:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you, but once it starts it usually doesnt stop. If you talk to him and tell him how you feel and he still does that is a good indictation to leave. Dont let anyone make you feel like you are worth nothing even if you want to be with them, because the reason you want to be with them is to be with them not to feel secure and happy.
2007-01-28 07:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to say this but if he is always hurting ur feelings and knows it then there isnt a point to be with him anymore he is just going to keep on hurting you and no girl should take that
2007-01-28 07:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by lilbaby3girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop and don't put up with it anymore.....
You're the one who has to stand up for yourself...don't waste your life with ppl who treat you like this, he's got issues and you've obviously got a few also to be allowing him to treat you with such disrespect...
Just break up with him, isn't worth the heartache in the long run, why be with this loser when you can find a gentleman who is going to encourage and uplift you instead of trying to belittle you?
2007-01-28 07:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you wan't to break up? there is someone else out there who will love you and won't hurt you. He's not worth it and i think you need to get out of the relationship
2007-01-28 07:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by capsimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋