2007-01-28 07:40:32 · 22 answers · asked by amelia_g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do you know he's changed? Did he become religious in there or what?!!!
The only way you'll ever be able to answer that is to be with him again and find out if he's ever going to beat you up ....... could be years and years down the road, but it probably will reoccur....Are you willing to give up the rest of your life to take that risk?!!!
Don't do it.....
2007-01-28 07:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as my exper if i were u, give it time. I know y i say this. U dont want another dissapointment belive me-u!! I was in that situation be-4, at the end he did not changed at all. What happen , he end up right back in jail. His temper did not changed and is insecurity got worse. Pretty much, i got hit for no reasons at all. Dont mind me asken how long were u with him?
2007-01-28 15:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by smily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel he's changed, go back with him. I'll tell you, however, that he'll not change his abusive behavior unless he put in a great deal of effort and had a great deal of help from a therapist. If you do go back with him, you're in for more beatings unless he's unlike every other abuser that ever lived. If you were my daughter, I'd urge you to get an opinion from a very skilled therapist that he's now benign before I'd suggest you go near him. That abusive behavior doesn't just change because he wants to change or swears that he won't do it again.
2007-01-28 15:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay with an abuser you are telling them that doing that to you is acceptable...same way if you stay with a cheater...you are giving the message that you can do just about anything and I will be right here waiting for you...they hit you once, send them to jail and out of your life...they wont change...
2007-01-28 15:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much has he changed really? Leave him alone and move on, you don't need to be abused ever, happens too often, I had a friend in the same situation and it got worse. So it is all a cover once he is around you more often and becomes more comfortable again the abuse will start up, it is a cycle that occurs on a regular basis.
2007-01-28 15:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by jobubba_3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the mirror and punch yourself in the face i think you need a reminder or at least knock some since into that head of yours.if he has truly changed he would not be coming back to a situation that put him in the frame of mind to hit women he would stay far far away from you to ensure your safety.as you should stay as far away from him as possible.im sorry if punching yourself in the face hurts but at least you can stop and promise yourself that you will never do it again and truly mean it.he on the other hand will not ever be able to make such a promise and keep it so punch yourself now or he will punch you later
2007-01-28 15:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Amelia,
How certain are you that he's changed? Are you 100% certain? Are you willing to risk your life on it? If you are not certain, i suggest you stay away from him. If he happens to go into a rage, you're the one he's gonna vent it on. I hope you don't get assaulted and have your heart broken again. There are lots of sweet decent guys out there and I'm sure you can find one if you try. Take care of yourself. :-)
2007-01-28 15:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Dominic John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the same thinking that a lot of battered women have.I agree with the first guy who answered. Are you willing to bet your life on it? They don't change.I know from personal experience.Don't take that chance,because the next time could be the end of your life.
2007-01-28 15:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wont change at all. i went through the same thing. i wont ever work out. go on. the are men out there will love you and wont hit you. i have a great boyfriend now that will never ever hit me. hes the best. leave him dont give it a chance once they do it they will always. i left and came back like you want to and it just got worse. he hit me in my mouth and knocked out my front teeth. now is that love dont think so its time girl to move on forget him please listen to me please
2007-01-28 15:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by blond and fun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will always try to make you think that they have changed their ways - most likely he is the same person he was before he went in. If you do get back with him make sure you leave him for good if it happends again. why stick around for that ****?
2007-01-28 15:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋