My grandma passed away this morning.?

Question

now I dont know what to do. ? My moms still making me babysit tonight..

I stopped crying im still really sad but what do i say when people come up to me and are like "im so sorry.."

What do I wear to her funeral. ? (im 12...)

How the heck do i deal with this?

What about at school. ?

I wrote her a letter. Will I be able to put it in the casket. ?

she was dhedrated. she wouldnt go to the doctors. then she got a stomache virues and it was just too much for her ...

Answer 1

im sorry to hear about your grandma.. when people say they are sorry for your loss i usually say 'thank you, me too' or something like that. wear church clothes to the funeral, nothing too colorful.. if you need to take a few days away from school i'm sure your mom will understand, but from personal experience i find its better to occupy yourself. only time will make the pain easier, maybe you could go to school and talk to a counselor, or your mom. good luck to you, these things arent easy, but how we deal with them says a lot about us. spend extra time on your homework or write in a diary about your feelings. just dont sit and dwell on it.

they will let you put your letter in the casket if you want to, just ask a family member or your mom, and they will let you put it in there

Answer 2

Sorry to hear about your grandma's passing but hopefully it is for the best. You will have a lot of grieving to do. When people express their condolences just be polite and say thank you. If they know her you may want to share some stories about you and your grandma. I haven't any idea of why your upset about babysitting but it sounds like you will be doing it tonight. Wear something that is pretty conservative to your grandma's funeral to show respect. At school you would be wise to return as soon as possible so as not to dwell on your emotions alone to long. There are many emotions and feeling that usually come after a loss like this and this grieving period is longer for some people then others. If you are really experiencing hard times getting over this loss you may want to consider attending for some grief counseling. And yes there should not be a problem with placing the letter you wrote for your grandma being placed in her casket. Again I am sorry for your loss but be brave and make sure to visit your grandma's grave to visit her once and a while. Best of luck with your grieving process.

Answer 3

I am sorry to know that your grandmother died. I'm sure you're very sad . When people tell you they're sorry, just say "thank you" or "thank you for coming". At school, when someone says they're sorry, you can just say, "Thank you. This is hard for me right now. It helps to know you care." I'm sure your mother will help you choose something to wear to the funeral. I've been to several funerals where kids your age (and adults too) were wearing a nice pair of slacks and a pretty sweater. You can put a letter in the coffin and a picture of yourself if you want. You asked how to deal with this. It helps to keep busy (babysitting will help you keep busy while your mother is busy with funeral plans). When you feel sad, and you will at times for several weeks or so, allow yourself to feel all the emotions as they happen. Don't try to make them go away. Remember the good times and the nice things about your grandmother. You will do just fine. I'll be thinking about you.

Answer 4

Ask your mom if you can take a day off from school. Let her know that you are really upset and you aren't ready to face people. She's probably making you babysit to try and get your mind to focus on other things. When people say "I'm so sorry"....just say thank you. They're letting you know that they care about you. There really isn't a whole lot that someone can say to you to make you feel better. Wear something that makes you feel comfortable. Something conservative. You can start dealing with this by doing what you're already doing on here. Talk to someone and tell them how you feel. Pretty much everyone has lost someone in their lives. Don't talk directly to your family yet since they're trying to figure out how to deal with it too. Maybe a friend's mom or dad. It's ok to be sad. Have a really good cry and let it all out. Try talking to your grandma...in private...out loud and tell her that you love her and try to make peace with anything that is bothering you. I think this will start to help with the healing of your loss. I wish you the best!

Answer 5

I'm so sorry for your loss. Everyone eventually will stop crying. You just have to start laughing again. When someone tells you how sorry they are, just tell them "Thank you." That's all you have to say. If you think you have to say more, say "Grandma was a special lady, and that you'll miss her". That should more than cover it. Just wear nice dress clothes to the funeral. You're school will excuse you for this, and all the teachers will let you make up any missed work. As for your mom making you babysit, cut her some slack. She just lost her parent. She has to go out and help make arrangements for everything. Just be kind. You'll go through this one day for her, and expect your kids to go with the mood. Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 6

aaww sorry to hear that. It will take some time but she will always be with you, just remember that. Your mom is probably still making you babysit to keep your mind occupied and busy. Your going to miss her and it will be hard but your family and friends are there for you. When people say they are sorry just say thank you. I'm sure your Mom will help you pick out what to wear . And yes you can put your letter inside the casket with her. Be strong for your grandma and know she wouldn't want you sitting around crying. Good Luck

Answer 7

I'm sorry. Maybe you shouldn't babysit since you need time to grieve. You can wear anything to a funeral just make it appropriate no short skirt. Time will heal your pain.
Some people think that going to school will help you not to focus so much on your grandma's death but you also need time to grieve like I stated so take time off from school a couple days atleast. You have to remember your grandma wouldn't want you to be upset she's want you to be happy and have a happy life, she's with you in your heart.

Answer 8

1. If your babysitting your siblings/cousins/etc. then they need you. Your mom prob. wants you to get it out of your mind for awhile until the funeral.

2. The people who say that don't know what to do. Just smile and say. Something like "Your so kind." or "Your so sweet".

3. Wear a black dress of course. This is your grandmothers funeral so wear a piano recital-type dress. Nothing showy. You will be respected for it. Besides, it is about her and seeing you in the dress will make her smile up in heaven.

4. Tell your bestfriend about it. And when she says she's sorry, ask her to tell anyone who asks where you are at school when you aren't there. That way everybody knows and he/she will most likely tell them in a kind way.

Answer 9

I'm sorry I hope you can feel better soon. When people say they're sorry just tell them thank you. To her funeral it doesn't matter all that much but you can wear a black long sleeve shirt and a black shirt, something like that. You deal with it by just remembering all the good times you had with her and just know that she's in a better place and is happy. In school if your still very upset and want to talk to someone about your loss you can talk to your guidence counsler.

Answer 10

First, you have my sincere condolences.
The best thing you can do right now is to remember the good times with Grandma. Remember her as she was,nit how she was at the end.
When people offer their condolences,simply say "thank You".You don't need to say anything else.It may take a while,but eventually you'll be able to talk about your feelings a little more openly.
Once you get back to school,just concentrate on doing the things you need to do to excel at your studies. That's what Your Grandma would want you to do,right?
As far as what to wear,ask your parents,They will know what's right. Good Luck and God Bless.