Her bf strung her along,she waited a couple of months for him because he said he was having family problems,dumped her over the phone,and recently she realized he used her all along when she found out he was seeing two other women from work and has moved one of them in. She has been really ill since this whole thing happened and has been on antidepressants. She cant believe the way he's treated her,he has been boasting at work about all the women he's had. She told me she is planning on killing him,she said she doesnt know how yet but she isnt going to let him get away with what he's done,i told her to leave it and that he's not worth it but she wont listen. I told her to just punch him or something if she wants revenge but she said she will never be happy until he's dead,what should i do?
2007-01-28 07:26:48 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gril, you friend sounds like she is hurting..really bad! First of all, you need to stick by her side, so she actually doens't kill him!
Kepp her mind off of him. Take her out of town, to a club, concert, etc. Take her somewhere that has a lot of guys around. Explain to her that there are more guys out there that deserve her than her ex-boyfriend.
If that doens't work, maybe you should tell her that she needs help.
2007-01-28 07:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by 88776 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her this...
He's isn't worth you and maybe you might meet someone better than him(maybe even her soul-mate). Why are you wasting you time over him? He is a jerk and you know it. Whatever goes around, comes around. you are hurt and that is why I (the friend) am here for you? This just gives you a chace to move on with you life. He betrayed you and hurting or killing him is going to help you in anyway. If you kill him you will have gotten revenge but the guilt of taking someone's life will be much more painful.
2007-01-28 15:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that it won't solve anything. Tell her about the consequences, and that if she does that her whole life will change because she will be imprisoned, and counselling and everything.
Tell her he is just a person, a fish in a sea full of sea creatures. There are better opportunites, a bright sun, nature and a life waiting for her to make something of herself. Besides, why would she want to be with a guy who would drag her down, and make her worthless. Every person has a future, women are more special than any guy.
2007-01-28 15:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by freezie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this for real? If she is capable of doing such an act. Then you have the responsibility to do something. By acting on this as if it is for real, you will not only save one life, but two. So you do know what to do, you are just afraid of doing it. You have two ways if the first doesn't work, then do the second. One, you can tell him and he needs to fix this if he is able, he should least try to repair the damage and make it right. If not go to police and file.
2007-01-28 15:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really sad to hear about jerks like him. Makes me so sick. Well, it sounds like your friend needs help. You could suggest counselling to get past her anger. She would most likely reject that idea. What I would do if I was in your situation is to spend time with her. What she needs now is a good friend, a shoulder to cry on. Someone to spend time with. Take her out for the day. Go places. Amusement park? Movies? Beach? Shopping? have good meals. Comfort food helps alot. Be her best friend. Distract her from thinking of him and help her through. Hope you can find the time for this. Might take a few days for this emotional and sensitive period in her life. Wish you all the best. Hope she recovers from this bad experience. Take care and good luck.
2007-01-28 15:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dominic John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should seek professional help. I don't think this attachment she has to him is healthy. She really needs to move on and figure out that she is better off without him. If she can't do this on her own she is going to need someone to help her. I can understand your concern, she shouldn't waste any more time even thinking about this guy for another minute. What happened to her sucks, but she will be wiser and more experienced for her next relationship when she is ready. It doesn't sound like she is ready for another relationship right now, she has to get past this first.
2007-01-28 15:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok when my first love really screwed me over, yeah I made plans for his murder and hexed him and blah blah blah. But I was just angry and hurt. I eventually got over it. Now maybe your friend needs to talk to someone. I am assuming that she is seeing a therapist because they don't just let you take antidepressants without seeing a therapist at least once every two weeks. Someone needs to set her straight. I think kicking him in the balls would be a great idea.
2007-01-28 15:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her and explain the implications of what will happen if she does such a thing. You should contact someone who can help you and do something to stop her, like call the police or take her to a mental hospital. Don't let her do what she is planning. Her life will be ruined.
2007-01-28 15:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make her understand that if she kills him she is going to become a murder. And he is not worth that. She will ruin her life for him. Take her out and tell her that she needs to change her attitude and let go that anger. Maybe she can comfront him and tell him how she would like him to end, but not do anything to him. Revenge is not good....
Anyways, If he is messing aroung she is lucky to be out of that dirty relationship. Men like that are dirt and trash and they are not value at all. tell her that for him what comes around goes around and it will happened to him. sooner or later. Make her understand that life is more prescious and that she needs to wake up and go on with her new life. I know it hurts when men do things to us but we need to just keep on going. He is not the only men on Earth so eventually she will find her prince.Or he will find her. Just dont give up!!!! keep your chin up always....!!!! Be strong!!!!
2007-01-28 15:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by Marlene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really means it then you have to call the police or something. If she were to go through with it you may be considered an accessory to murder or something. More than likely she will attack him hesitate and he may in self defense hurt her or kill her. Dont suggest that she even punches him or something because it may escalate. The guy sounds like an *** but its not right to kill him or have him put in jail for self defense
2007-01-28 15:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by iwll m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋