I've been seeing a lot of questions by guys wondering how to approach women they are interested in, especially if the guy is shy. So, ladies, here is your chance to tell the men of the world which method of approach you prefer, and please be as specific as you can be. Should a shy guy give or send you a card? Do pickup lines work?
2007-01-28 07:19:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
First, let me say that you have definitely found the right approach to get the answer. Someone can speculate and experiment forever, but it's best to go to the source. You will probably get as many different answers, but at least you'll know it will work on at least one woman.
What is it that interests you? Is it her looks? Her conversation? If a guy is interested in the way I look, then his approach should be honest about it. "Hi, I'm Joe. I saw you standing there, and I really think you are pretty". This is direct, and honest, and respectful. I would be much more willing to say, "Hi, I'm Lori. Thank you for the compliment. I noticed you, too".
If it's the conversation that got you interested, it gets much easier. You can always listen for subjects you have in common, or opinions that you share, and open that way. "Hey, I agree with you that.....". There is an immediate opportunity to get to know me without implying an advance of some kind.
Pick-up lines don't generally work, but they do have their place. I enjoy a pick-up line AFTER I've already been introduced in another way, if it's done humorously. If you go for the bawdy, tacky lines, it will eventually work on a bawdy, tacky person. So, it depends on what kind of girl you are interested in. One time, a guy came up to me and said, "Hey, you want to go get a pizza and f***"? When my face went pale, he said, "What? You don't like pizza"? This would have been hilarious if I already knew him, but coming from a stranger, it was juvenile.
Honestly, if a shy guy wants to be introduced, I prefer that he ask a friend to help out. The friend can explain that he's too shy. Some women hate that, but I think it's charming that he's not too afraid to show some vulnerability. Plus, it gives me a minute to think of a sensitive answer if I'm not interested. I don't want to leave him feeling rejected, but I don't want to encourage him needlessly, either. If there is no friend to help, then a short note would be ok, if it was direct.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-28 08:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, cards are fine, but if the girl is already interested in some one else it's a terrible idea, also if the card happens to say something particularly stupid all the girls friends ( and if it's at a school the whole grade ) will know about it.
it depends on the pick up line, most sound rather stupid to me, but actually lots of girls think it's kinda cute....
also the riskier the attempt for attention the more likely it is to work, and not just physically risky... try to make them laugh.....singing maybe,? but only if you've got the voice (and guts)
2007-01-28 08:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by alpha mutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a friendly introduction rather than "Nice outfit, it would look great balled up on my floor".
Honestly, every girl is different. Cheesy pickup lines, I hope, only work in movies.
Strike up a decent conversation instead of trying to be clever with a 'line'.
2007-01-28 07:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Shawna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always went with the Introduction by Mutual Friends.
Honestly.
Cards are for after you've known each other.
Pick up lines sent my running to the hills.
Find the common ground.
Find mutual people you both know. Or know of.
Bars don't work!
2007-01-28 12:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋