my gf wants to be friends so why does she still text me stuff?

Question

hi my ex gf finished with me few weeks ago cos of an argument we had at work. since then she says she doesnt wanna be with me anymore but still has feelings for me and she still likes me and fancies me. she says she wants to be friends. what does she mean by saying she still fancies me and likes me ?? i so wanna get back with her....she still texts me asking me if im ok and if im doing anything that nite. she also is meeting me on friday to go pictures. what do i do ??? i need help i do want to get back with girls. i just need help i.e how shud reply to her txts and stuff and cos im meeting her on friday wat day should text her asking her if we are still on for fri ??? do u fink she wud ever get back with me ?

Answer 1

she still likes you but I guess theres something she doesnt like about you or something is in the way of your relationship but if you like her then talk to her bout it and ask her she still likes you ask her out again

Answer 2

You need to back off a bit. No guy should get involved with a girl like that, she's just playing with your emotions.

I'm assuming she knows your feelings for her and she wants you to keep having those feelings because it makes her feel good. My advice would be to play her at her own game, text her back a few days before and cancel the trip to the cinema, make some excuse why you can't make it (make sure it's something you can't get out of) but tell her you'll rearrange it for another time. You want to leave it a little while, maybe the following week, and then text her to ask if she wants to catch that movie you were going to see. But before you ask her, ask a few mates if you want to catch a movie too, this way you'll be going as a group of friends and she wont have you all to herself. Another thing you could do is to make sure one of your friends you've invited is single girl, one that you fancy yourself, then make sure she gets more of your attention than your ex. A good idea would be when you buy the tickets make sure the cashier hands the tickets to you and then you hand the tickets out to your mates, this way you can use the numbers on the tickets to make sure your sitting next to this girl, a good idea would be to place this girl between you and your ex.

Finally, after the trip to the cinema, ask your ex if she'd like to come over to your place for a few drinks and a movie (doesn't have to be that, just as long as it means the two of you are alone) and use that time to emphasise how glad you are that you're still friends and that you appreciate having a friend you can talk to openly. Once you've done this, you've given yourself an excuse to be open with her, so now you can confide to her your feelings for this other girl (the one who came to the cinema) and ask for her advice. If she complains, tell her that you thought she was a friend but now you realise you were wrong, and if she mentions her feelings for you then tell her if she had any feelings for you then she wouldn't have dumped you in the first place and that you don't appreciate people playing little mind games.

If everything goes okay, then congratulations are in order, you've successfully turned the tables on her and now she is the one getting played.

Answer 3

To be honest pal from one guy to another she is just messing you around and is keeping you there until she goes out with a guy that she wants to be with

she is messing you around by thinking that she is better than you
she thinks she is doing you the favour by going out with you to the pictures

drop her like the lead wieght that she is

she maybe lovely to look at
she maybe a nice person at times
she maybe someone who makes you "how high" when she says jump

but buddy at the end of the day
she is not being striaght with you and when it comes to a persons feelings and the heart of another human being then thats the only thing in the world you CAN NOT BE CRAFTY about

if I were you although this maybe harsh in your eyes you just need to be normal and ask her when and were your going to meet on friday for the movies and go to the movies for normal and FOR FLIP SAKE dont be desperate and all over her, you have to play hard to get DONT HAVE YOUR ARM AROUND HER
DONT KISS HER
ONLY KISS HER IF SHE GIVES YOU A KISS

and then after the movie go for a bite to eat or a drink somewhere and ask her straight out "are we together" and if she reacts vioently you have your answer - she is a waste of time stringing you along

if she reacts calmly listen to what she says and use your own judgement but if she is still being crafty towards you then dump her

unless she says "yes we are back on and I just had a hissy fit" then dump her and dont be in touch and you will be better for it as she needs you more than you need her

you just love her hence why you dont see that you are better than her

good luck pal

Answer 4

I'm not sure, sounds to me like she doesn't want to get back with you, but wants to make sure you're not moving on and having a life without her.

Ask her out-right, see if there is a chance of you getting back togther, if it was just an argument and no-ones cheated or something just as bad, it's worth a shot.

I never think being a friend with an ex is a good idea, it never allows you to fully move on.

Answer 5

WOMEN! Ok you'lls ee her on Friday and she'll either say she doesn't know how she feels, or say she doesn't want to be with you, secretly she does, and she just wants to see whether youre going to try your hardest to get back with her, buuuut if you act too keen it will push her away and if you're too distant then she'll really want you and text you lots, but then deny it and be all traumatised...soo...just find a way to explain that if you both like each other then you should be together, because it IS worth it!

Answer 6

Well, to be honest, shes not very considerate is she?
If my by/friend dumped me then wanted to still be part of my life - i'd tell him to take a long run off of a short pier!!!
I'd explain to her how hurt you feel by all of this and ask her to make up her mind once and for all. If she cant, make it for her and walk away!

Good luck
Flower xx

Answer 7

in my opinion maybe she really wants to be with you, but the fear of her getting back with you and breaking up to her just seem pointless, maybe she wants YOU to tell her how you feel about the whole situation. Or maybe she just don't want you to forget her making it hard for you to move on.

Answer 8

sounds like she wants it both ways. ask her to cool it off for a while if she just wants to be friends and see her reaction, maybe she'll realise what shes lost and ask you out again.
shes pulling at your heart strings, don't let her mess you about stay strong and keep it cool.

Answer 9

sounds to me that she wants to keep you hanging on.... give you the thought that you may get back together.... sounds cruel, but sometimes people do that!!! good luck, move on x

Answer 10

she is simple