our love come to marriage 3 years ago. she was a very decent one. she is a student so she stay at hostel. but often comes my house at the begining days. she has not get a good behave from my mother as she says. i love her so much. i gave him all the freedom she wants from me. i always encourage her for her carrier. but she told me fifteen days earlier that she had an accidental affair with a man and got sextual relations hith him accidently. the relation has one year long. now she totally stoped it and confess to me and wanting to start our relation. which was never end fron my view. i never feel i am cheated by her in this years. now when she confess. i have forgive her but i still feeling very lonely because she is still in hostel and not living with me for her freedom she wants. i am feeling so bad. i love her so much that i cant be without her. my mother is pressing me to take her home, because she fell very alone in home as my father died five years ago. shoud i wait still for her
2007-01-28 07:00:46 · 13 answers · asked by need help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is not accidental relation with another person.
She cheated and that is that
2007-01-28 07:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Premarital sexual relation is no offence or punishable in India. Even if proved or confessed, no ground for seeking divorce. A wife's living with other men (having sexual relations) is also no offence or punishable in India, yet a ground for seeking divorce. Despite divorce, husband is bound to maintain her or to pay for maintenance expenses, till she remarries or dies. ... Accidents may occur again and again, they are never preplanned. You should be more broad minded for marrying such accident prone girl. None can stop accidents but reduce occurrence by proper care. After a few years (or decades) she may be accident free or you will be tension free (tolerant), so continue happy marital life without invinting any troubles like police cases, arrests, jail etc., and utilise her talents. ... ZAFARULLAH HYDERABAD INDIA PH: 9247173741.
2007-01-28 07:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
need,
When it comes to carnal knowlege, there are no accidents. Outside of rape, every decision to go on is made, every move is deliberate and consentual.
She had this affair because she WANTED to, sir. In my opinion it would have happened if she was living with you, nor would it have mattered if she was on a small island 12,000 miles away. Any excuse she offers is just that, an EXCUSE. Whether that excuse was convenient in the making (in that you claim some responsibility for it) makes no difference...from what I understand, she knew how you felt about her. She chose to act out on her impulses and betray you.
You need to decide whether you can trust her again. She willingly hurt you once...to me, her admitting guilt has nothing to do with you...she probably told you to clear her guilty conscience.
2007-01-28 07:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of "accidental" one night stands.. which I still don't believe in.. and then there are "accidental" affairs... how can someone "accidentally" have relations, with another man for over a year? I'm sorry, but I doubt it was an accident.. and if she did it once, she's probably gonna do it again.. trust your own instincts. Good luck with your answers.
2007-01-28 07:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, accidents do not last a year, but never mind that.
The real question is what does "...wanting to start our relationship"... actually mean? Surely not "not living with you" because she wants freedom!
Please ask yourself (and answer yourself truthfully!!! lol) just what is it that you love about this girl? And ask her why she wants you if she doesn't want you...
You can wait for her, definitely, but please, do it from your home.
ADDED: I just noticed that you posted this question under "singles and dating" rather than "marriage and divorce." Does that mean something? or just an accidental?
2007-01-28 07:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think that relationships can happen accidently. Its upto you if u can accept 'seeta' then u are a normal person. Evem God Rama also didnt accept seeta even after agni-pariksha, & here there was no "seeta-haran'. She went on her own. & that too for a long year. I think she is not intelligent.
2007-01-28 14:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not stay with her.You cannot have an accidental relationship with anybody.Especially one that lasts A YEAR!!!
Your a fool if you keep her.
2007-01-28 07:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by cheechandchong1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seem really sweet ,as u said u luv her, its better u 4giv her, and its very gud that she has confessed it, may b that was really an accident, forgiv her n forget it.
.........b as helpful to her as u wer b4.
try to take her home, to ur mother, even ur mother needs 2b taken care off.
2007-01-28 14:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Ramya R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say to you''when sex sit on mind then it never think any think''
and ''sex in not control when it come in our life''
but only one idea or advice i give that...........
you love your life very much...
i mean very much.....
when she realise that ''one person is love very much and real love from heart''
and this think change her life and she never think about sex and about any think.
because love is more great then sex.
and this time you forgive him....with say that'' i feel dead when i know this....
but i can't angry to you because'' i love you''
and think you next time you understand my feelings.''....
and last i advice you to go ''www.theromantic.com''
and www.romanceclass.com''
for understand girls feelings''
best of luck.
2007-01-28 10:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by king 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has accidental relationships....
You should reconsider the whole meaning of your relationship with this woman.....and then enroll in an English Course you need it.
2007-01-28 07:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by Nelly B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋