ok first of all i just found this out .she has been emailing all my teachers im in 7th grade.she emails them that im crying cause i couldnt make up a test or how im stressed about things and its not true at all i talk to her she says she wont do it and then she does i know how to handle my schoolwork and im trying to show her that she called a guidence consuler for me because i got an f on my test im not even an only child what is her deal im 13 and i know how to ake care of my schoolwork .
2007-01-28 06:59:44 · 14 answers · asked by M.C.C. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't mean to be rude but if your school work is like this question then someone needs to intervene. She just wants what's best for you and wants you to do well so you can have a good life. And that starts with getting a good education and doing well in school. I think you would be more upset if she didn't care at all. Hang in there, sweetie, and sit down and talk with your mom. Maybe you can get her to understand how you feel and maybe you'll see what she's trying to do too. Good luck!
2007-01-28 07:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your 13 your mother is trying to look out for you. Secondly you got an F on a test but you say you know how to handle your school work.,obviously not. My son also had a difficult time starting 7th grade this yearand I also contacted his teachers. Between all of us he is now doing his homework and getting MUCH better grades. If your this upset talk to your teachers maybe they could get mom to calm down. I think your not doing well in school and you REALLY need to understand that your education is the most important thing in your life at this age. It is only going to get harder from here. Also always remember your mom loves you and just wants you to do your best!! GOOD LUCK
2007-02-05 14:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by motherof6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are only human. You say that you talk to your mom, but you get upset when she tries to communicate with people about problems that she hears or sees? What do you want?
She's YOUR MOM. She spent 9 months with you growing inside of her, another 13 years now to watch you change from a slobbering baldie with dirty diapers to a just-turned teen with an attitude and not willing to admit that maybe -- JUST MAYBE -- you don't have all the answers yet.
"I'm trying to show her", I assume, means that you are trying to demonstrate that you have the grades and school thing under control. Guess what - A 'F' is not going to prove to her (or anyone else, for that matter) that you've got the grades and school thing under control.
Your mom is an adult for a reason -- she survived long enough to have YOU. That means that EVEN IF YOU DON'T AGREE with everything she says, her experience and knowledge COUNT!
If she's doing what she knows to see that you are safe, well, and educated, and she's coming to the end of her rope and asking help from the guidance counselor (and your other teachers), it doesn't sound like she's been able to rely on your word or behavior to show that you DO, in fact, have it together.
In order to demonstrate to your Mom that you are responsible, you have to DO IT. Talk is cheap. Sit down with her (and the guidance counselor, if you're willing to admit that sometimes you and she don't always communicate that well) and make a set of rules that you can both agree to. Will it require sacrifices on your part? Probably! But it is better than having EVERYTHING under the microscope and having to justify ALL of your activities at ANY hour of the day?
Just in case you think your Mom has lost her mind and you'd be better off with someone else: GET A GRIP. No one else loves you as much or would DO as much for you as your Mom. Hands down.
2007-01-28 15:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by CarinaPapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the crying thing is true, remind her that you are a teen and that teenage girls are bound to cry about anything. (please don't take offense, I was a teen girl once too... that is why I am saying this).
If she thinks you are getting stressed, then you are obviously showing signs of stress. Maybe snapping at her?
Talk to her. Tell her what is going on with you. If you are moody, explain why. If you don't know why you are moody, it's probably hormones... Tell her this. Remind her of what it is like to be a teenager!
Your mother isn't the enemy.
She is doing the best she can the only way she knows how. And remember, she only does these things because she loves you and wants you to be happy.
If you don't like what she is doing to try to make you happy... instead of telling her what NOT to do.... Try telling her what she CAN do to help your life become a little easier. And be realistic about it.
You can't tell her to butt out. She is your mother. She loves you. Butting out is not an option as she needs to know that you are ok.
2007-02-03 00:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by originalpuppycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi michelle! weolcome to the club. I'm 13 too, but im in ninth grade. (don't ask how that happened) I'm actually a good student, I get mostly A's and B's, but my mom does the exact same thing. You need to show your mom that you know what you're doing. Even if it means succumbing to her annoyingness for a little while, tell her what you're doing in class, etc. I'm not saying tell her everything, but clue her in a little. Is your mom a perfectionist or one of those people who wants her kid to get perfect grades? If so, that would explain it. If she is, then she's probably just trying to find excuses to make you make up a test, or prove you aren't stupid to herself. (im sure you arent ;-D) You need to tell her that you're handling things and make her believe that you'd come to her if you needed help, and tell her that everyone gets an F every now and then. We can't all be perfect, can we? If her emails are changing the way that people like your teachers look at you, then however hard it is, you need to tell them that your mom was lying. Hope things get better.
2007-01-28 15:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell how you feel. Tell her that your old enough to take care of yourselve. That your almost a teenager and you can handle everything that comes your way. Just study harder to bring up your f's. When your teachers give you homework then do it right away to show your mom that you can take care of yourself.
2007-01-28 15:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look i wish i could have done that for my 4 sons but they were also older now. SHe cares for you and concerned and that is why stop being so mean. shes not doing nothing but caring and that is what you should be happy she cares enough to find out and try to help that is all.
2007-02-02 00:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother did that too! It'll be okay. Give it a week to blow over, and guidance counselers aren't that bad. Just concentrate more on your schoolwork.
2007-01-28 15:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by A Random Ugly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants you to do good in school. school is the most important thing. the way i get my good grades is that i look at school like this: good grades in school=good college, good college=good job, good job=good amount of $$$, good amount of $$$= big house nice cars and a lot of other stuff. in the end its all about the $
2007-01-30 20:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is just conserned about you... if you keep doin this she will leave you alone... i am goin on my second year in 9th grade, and right now, my geades are 3 Ds and 4 Fs
2007-01-28 15:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by sandman_will 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋