My girlfriend is very persistant in getting what she wants. and she's very dominant if she doesn't get her way..
since we've been going out, a year ago.. she's tried to change my clothing and my hair.. would you believe i'm under the thumb at 17 !?
her latest plan was to get me to put on weight so that i can be obese compared to her cos she had body issues.. i put on 2 stone to make her happy
she's cheated on me 4 times and i feel im the one keeping the relationship together..
why is she trying to change me, when she fell in love with me the way i am .. could she b bored ?
what shud i do.. ?? revenge ??
2007-01-28 06:50:09 · 53 answers · asked by 18/M/Scotland 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
REVENGE
2007-01-28 06:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mullen 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
walk away now, do not look back u do not need this constant thumb-print on ur 4head!
go find urself a girl that likes u 4 u.
doesn't need or want 2 change u.
any revenge is a bit silly now, it won't change that u adapted happily a few months ago.
u admit 2 being Puzzy-whipped ( worse than being under the thumb! ) 4 over a year, don't even bother going near her again.
& get ur self-image sorted out 2.
concentrate on ur confidence, coz girls like the 1 U R walking away from can leave u feeling battered 4 a while.
look after urself dude.
:)
2007-01-28 07:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately some women meet guys and then try to change them to what they think is ideal - you are only 17 and should not be in this relationship. You need to move on before she completely ruins your self esteem and knocks your confidence. If any girl cannot accept you for what you are then they are not worth the time of day - like you said she fell in love with you the way you were so stay as you are and be happy
2007-01-28 06:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't get revenge (GET RID OF HER) she do not love you sorry to say. I feel if she loved you first she wouldn't cheat on you and second she wouldn't care what you looked like. When she cheated on you the first time and you forgave her why did she do it 3 more times. Look baby she a controlling low self-esteem tramp, and a gold digger. She is only with you for what you can do for her. She's defiantly not with you because she loves you. I believe you should get out while you can before you be wearing a pink jump suit next. Because she is defiantly playing you like a punk.
2007-01-28 07:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Student 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, if you feel that she is trying to change who you are, try talking to her. Tell her that you don't want to change because you like who you are and if she doesn't then maybe it's time she finds someone else who is willing to be her lapdog. Don't be a wuss about it either. Girls tend to like guys who are upfront. It may be hard at first to try to be the dominate one in this situation but in the end only good can happen. I mean, ok so what if you break up? Well then you have a chance at getting someone who really likes you for who you are and if you do stay together, she won't pull that kind of crap on you.
2007-01-28 06:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are only 17, how old is she? So far she has been very manipulative and ungrateful. If you love her you need to start standing up for yourself, she won't respect you until you respect your self (I know that cheesy but its true)Women also much prefer a man with some back bone, but really you are only 17 you should be having fun there are plenty of years of cr*p ahead of you so put your foot down or walk away it might be hard but from the sound of it a guy like you will have no trouble finding someone else.
2007-01-28 06:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by sally s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mr Howie is bang on the money go tell her to **** herself in front of all of her friends and yours preferabley at a party and if you do that also remined everyone of what a slag she is by cheating on you 4 times and im sorry pal but whats wrong with you!!! she has cheated on you 4 times!!!! four times there has been someone elses meat and two veg up her kitty kat and youve stayed with her!
im surprised and shocked youve changed your style, put on weight and your appearance just so she can be the biggest bike the world has seen and shag anythign that walks if it was legal you should shoot her but seeing as you would go to jail dont
just dump her publically and make her name mud PERMENANTELLY!!
2007-01-28 09:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Music fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has some serious emotional baggage, and guess what, you are the bell boy! Don't blame yourself for what she does, trust me I know! Revenge is the resort of idiots... If she is bored, then maybe she should bugger off!
I'm going to take a wild guess, and say it was all peachy at the beginning, and then -Bang- one day you wake-up with a slave collar and chain... Best bet is to simply say that you are too different to be together, and YOU think it is best that you split up!
Hope this helps!
2007-01-28 07:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Not revenge! That will only lower your standards and integrity. I am a firm believer that you teach people how to treat you. She has insecurity issues. She is not happy with herself and is cheating to prove to herself that she is a "wanted" woman. But the truth is, she is degrading herself.
Have a talk with her. Let her know that you WILL NOT put up with her behavior and if it continues, you will have to move on. She either has to accept you for who and what you are or she needs the curb.
Good luck!
2007-01-28 06:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 02:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds awful, making you look physically bad so she could look better, I'd advise getting rid of her and getting out and walking or lifting weights to get yourself back into shape.
The best revenge for someone like this, a spoilt brat, is to bounce right back to the way you were before and simply get on with your life. Oh, you'll also have dumped her.
Just don't let her bully you into taking her back, that's all.
2007-01-28 06:58:24 · answer #11 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋