i found text messages on my boyfriend's cell phone between him and another girl about when were they going to get together again- i was snooping so don't know how to bring this up to him thanks
2007-01-28 06:46:23 · 28 answers · asked by goddess0714 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't bring it up now. Just keep a close watch on him. If you act like you've heard or seen nothing, you'll know what action he takes. If he does seem like he's seeing her on the side without your knowledge, you then have a much bigger reason to confront him. Doing now, he'll surely call you a snoop and may even use that as a reason to shift the blame over to you. So, keep your emotions under wraps and wait for you opportunity. Sorry this is happening for you, hope it isn't much of an issue. Good luck.
2007-01-28 06:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's obvious that if you were snooping, there was a trust issue to begin with. Did you suspect that there was someone else and were you looking for validation? Admitting to your boyfriend that you snooped would only make things worse but you might consider a heart to heart talk with him about concerns you have over your relationship; that you're wondering if he's happy or if he feels the need to date others--as long as you're prepared for the possible answers. Otherwise, if you're not ready to face that, keep an eye on his cell phone for the next date and time of their meeting and try showing up; thereby catching him red-handed. Then you'll have your answer and can dump him with a clear conscience.
2007-01-28 14:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. That's what you should do. But I would tell him that his phone went off and you were just trying to get it to shut off. Then you found all these messages from some girl. He'll probably be so worried about trying to get out of it he won't remember to be mad you snooped. But remember that this could end your relationship. He's seeing someone else. That's a big deal. You must have reasons for not trusting him.
2007-01-28 14:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring it up. Wait eventually (now that you know to pay attention) you will find something that you can speak on that doesn't rat you out for being a snoop.
If you can't keep it in you have to get his phone in your hands legit. Say you want to change your ringtone for your number or something and just happen to view his messages. If it's erased...girl he is cheating. If it's still there just ask who this is? Don't sound accusing though or he may get defensive.
2007-01-28 14:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by HatingF8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First pretend you are him and text her back from his phone telling her he has some strange rash and discharge and doesn't feel comfortable being together until she gets checked out!
Then take his phone to him say guess what your BUSTED. Snooping is a lot less of a betrayal than cheating. Don't worry about how you found it.
Then.............date his brother, or anybody that would piss him off.
2007-01-28 22:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no other way to get this in the open other than confront the situation. He'll blame you for snooping. You'll counter with he is being duplicitous and had it coming. Who is the victim in this? You. He's talking about two-timing with another and you caught him. What you do next is up to you after the "conversation" plays out.
2007-01-28 14:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by Bayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depend on wat was said in the messages. if he said positive things about him and her getting back together then confront him, no matter wat, and show him his phone, and tell him point blank, that u r not going to take that kind of **** and that if he is going to do that without telling u then u dont want to be with him. if the messages were negative, still confront him by asking him if he has ever done something secret behind ur back, when he gives u an answer like no, then ask him if he is sure then hand him his phone and tell him to tell u the truth, thats all a relationship needs is trust and honesty. without those, there is no relationship. so basically, confront him, no matter wat.
Hope this works and good luck with everything.
2007-01-28 15:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Deathkiss911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when your checking out what a guy is doing behind your back it is because you have a idea that he is not being faithful. Now you have to make the choice if you want someone like that in your life, someone who lies to you and obviously doesnt care about you and cheats on you.
He isnt really worth worrying about how you bring it up, you are a far better person to have someone treat you this way. Move on and leave him in the dust... Trust me you will be so glad you did. good luck
2007-01-28 15:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really bring up with causing a scene, as you were snooping! Shame on you! Did you consider that it may be a plantonic thing with this girl? Or does he have a history of cheating? If he does, dump him and move on!
2007-01-28 14:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by zookeeper 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you snoop you have to be prepared to find out stuff...and you did.
You don't have a lot of choices....either you tell him you snooped and what you found....or....start paying close attention to his actions because eventually he'll slip up.
If it were me....I would break up with him....but that's just me.
2007-01-28 14:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋