Boyfriend & I going out for 2 ½ months after being attracted to each other for a long time, we were going great until 1 ½ weeks ago when things seemed to change, last week we had a bit of a 'thing' thanks to paranoia & alcohol, we talked about it on Thursday.
I told him I didn't like his not staying over & that I always seem to call him to get together, to me something has changed. He said he worries about how much time we spend together this early on and sometimes he just likes to stay in his own bed.
Some of it was fair enough, but given my past [bad] relationships I still was not happy with the explanations he gave, we were fantastic until about 1 ½ weeks ago, now I'm worried.
We were supposed to be going to a friends this weekend, my boyfriend has been working & was out last night, but I'm concerned about the fact he hasn't been in touch since Thursday.
Should I be concerned? Or just wait for him to get in touch & see if things get back to normal again after that?
2007-01-28 06:39:59 · 6 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My thoughts are that if you like someone you want to spend time with them, I don't expect to see him all the time; I really need a lot of personal space too.
We see each other a couple of nights a week, but the fact he hasn't stayed over and that he doesn't put much effort into getting together bothers me (granted he is a flake, I normally crack and text him first to remind him we have plans).
The other week we were both ill so didn't see or talk to each other at all, after which it felt different, it bothered me that he didn't put more effort into seeing me again after a week apart.
Although it should be noted this is his first relationship.
2007-01-28 07:05:24 · update #1
What is normal?.
2007-01-28 06:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you're over the honeymoon period, that's all. The initial high is gone, now it's down to real life/real relationship. You don't have to do EVERY LITTLE THING together, it's actually better if you see each other less than half the time for now. You both need the time to reflect and to come back to being your individual selves, as well as part of a couple. A period of adjustment is required. Go to your friends on your own, and don't be concerned about him just yet.
2007-01-28 14:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, dont want to scare you, but i would be very worried if i were you... reason being... my ex did the same thing, was very quiet and i always initiated any conversation... saying he was a little "offish" is putting it lightly. Then discovered he was looking elsewhere, and slept around behind my back.
What a stupid excuse = if you're really into a particular person, you'd want to spend ALL of your time with him/her. So if i was you, i would be concerned. Sit him down, and talk about it!!!
2007-01-28 14:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anfieldgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to relax a little, i understand how you feel
i found myself becoming a bit of a bunny boiler before i met my husband.
thankfully he is now as crazy about me as i am about him.
try to get on with things- and maybe even a little of his own medicine
dont make yourself so available and even go to your friends without him.
if hes playing cool and you subtly play cool back then he will chase you, but not if you make it obvious
and if he doesnt, well then let him go, you dont want to settle down with someone who has totallly different values to you
2007-01-28 14:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by flossie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the man needs some space, take things slowly like he wants or you will drive him away
2007-01-28 14:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by nicolefrenzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be wanting some space.
2007-02-01 05:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋