to avoid triggering doubt from the judgemental karenS's of the world )see the responses to my preilet me rephrase my previous question leaving out details and being more "general".
i really love the girl i am currently with. however it seems to be much give and little receive... I supply the smokes, the food, my time cooking, the entertainment, the emotional support, the massages, the money needed to go out and do things... my needs (particularly physically) dont seem to be very important to this person. i feel like i am doing all i can do meet her needs and expectations, but when it comes to me and mine, forget about it...
this partly deals with the fact that sex is totally controlled by her... she gets it when she wants it, and when i want it, who cares...and when i do get it, she gets off before me and then calls it quits leaving me blue balled and frustrated...ive tried to discuss this with her but she either gets mad and refuses to talk about it, or says its my problem not hers.
2007-01-28 06:35:27 · 15 answers · asked by blackmetalgod2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sex is a very important of a relationship just as important as honesty and communication. If you are not getting those needs met its not worth being stuck in that relationship. Explain to her that sex is important (but not in a macho manly way) and tell her that if she cant understand that, then there will surely be other things in your life together that she'll surely be selfish with, and that you cannot be in a one sided relationship.
2007-01-28 06:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by deus82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time fo ryou to move on. In my opinion a relationship can only be successful is both parties put in and have something to offer each other. You have been thoughtful, kind, affectionate and giving to this person, yet she on the other hand has given you nothing in return. She has empty feelings for you. Especially with the "it's your problem not mine" comment she gave you when it comes to sex. Just think about it, how would she embrace motherhood? Do you think a newborn would get fed on time with her attitude? She likes to be ion control and I think she should be with someone that wouldn't mnd that and let you be free to be with someone that is more positive. You've done all you can with this one.
2007-01-28 14:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by styymy_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a person that suffers from depression, I usually find myself in the role of your partner. My husband does everything and I am unable to reciprocate because I am in such a funk all the time. And my depression also finds its way into the bedroom as well. When you don't feel good about yourself, it leads to a cold bed.
Does your girlfriend exhibit any symptoms of depression? Pay close attention because sometimes it isn't that obvious and can seem to be a lack of caring.
I hope this helps!
2007-01-28 14:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by TheAnswerChicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this girl has no concern about you or your needs... Any person who cared deeply for someone, would do all they can to make their significant other happy. By the sounds of things, she's after her own satisfaction... Get out of that relationship... you have needs and emotions as well, sounds like she doesn't know that!!!
2007-01-28 14:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anfieldgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three points for a woman libber. The only suggestion is how committed are you, do really want to spend the rest of you life like this? If you answered yes to one of these questions then so long sally. Your important too.
2007-01-28 14:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... sex can be so frustrating. halfway through this i almost got mad at you cuz i thought you were being the typical male. but wow your not. she really is just to selfish.. i wouldn't leave her because of this.. if talking dont work then stop doing things for her. tell her you love her but she needs to respect your needs like you respect hers. and somewhere in the beginning i can you led her to think she is the one in control when really you both are. explain to her that love is about corporation and negotiation not get and get
2007-01-28 14:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by the sulky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump and move on - don't look back or revisit even with the promise of a change. Ture colors are hard to change - you need to find a relationship that is neither independent or dependent but rather interdependent - this one is purly independent (on her part)
2007-01-28 14:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude i don't mean to be rude but stating the obvious she don't like you that much she only like you for what you can do for her..
Come on dude think "She is just using you" why have she said thank you to you lately or even the word "I love you" Ohh let me Guess "NO" right.. Man rethink your options man...
2007-01-28 14:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by CarZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great giving guy, and she sounds like a self-absorbed female who really cares nothing about your needs or desires. So what is there about her that makes you love her? You can do better than this. Don't be so egotistical that you think you can change her. You sound like a nice guy. Find a girl who appreciates you and wants to please you as much as you want to please her.
2007-01-28 14:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jerry K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seem all one-sided - (but there is 2 sides to all stories) either talk it through - or move on
2007-01-28 14:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Aubrey B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋