All my boyfriend ever does is accuse me of cheating, everything i do, i could be cheating.. well we got that resolved yesterday and i told him that i couldnt be with him if he couldnt trust me.. well he said he would trust me
but now i feel guility.. and for now reason.. i never cheated on him.. but do you know that feeling that you have to tell someone because it is eating you up inside.. well i have that feeling.. like i have to tell him that i cheated on him.. WHEN I NEVER DID.. but im scared its going to slip out..I feel like i should be telling him I cheated on him whats wrong with me?
2007-01-28 06:25:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is to insecure! tell him to relax and that he is the only one, he is being controlling and annoying when he asks all the time! he needs to trust you, or the relationship is not going to work.
2007-01-28 06:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being a bit excessive if he's constantly accusing you of cheating. Its a bit too possessive, and you did the right thing by telling him you would leave if he didn't trust you.
The reason you want to tell him you cheated in my opinion is that it will give you an "escape" from this relationship and an easy one...if you don't want to be in this relationship, then just tell him...or maybe you want to be with him but maybe are so sick of accusations you would rather just take the heat and move on...
You need to either leave this guy or work it out, but don't admit to something you didn't do
2007-01-28 06:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by bheithcao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I DON'T remember which physc 101 or even what it's called, but basically it's this: He's been pounding into your head for so long now that you're a no good cheater that you feel guilty about NOT being one(think reverse psychology here)! Second, it really sounds as if HE has been doing all the cheating, what with his accusations and all. His accusations are classic signs of a very guilty conscious!! Toss him already and get a restraining order for added protection too!
2007-01-28 06:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you did or you didn't? If you did, confess. If you didn't, you sure shouldn't be feeling like you should lie and say you did. I do have an issue with this one, though. His accusing you leads me to believe he's cheating on you. Whether you want to accept it or not, I do think you'd be smart to keep quiet but keep your eyes and ears wide open. I think you need to do some investigating. If you never cheated, never have given a reason for him to think you've cheated, it's his insecurities and usually it's because they are guilty. Sorry! Be smart, and find out.
2007-01-28 06:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be cheating if hes always accusing u of cheating, but if u havent cheated then u shouldnt feel like u have something to tell him, unless u feel guilty for something that u have done in the past.
2007-01-28 06:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have heard him accuse you of cheating so many times that he has you convinced that you actually did cheat on him. And if you indeed have NOT cheated on him, then it's time you started working on yourself to reverse the damage he has done. Do NOT, I repeat, Do NOT tell him that you have cheated, unless in actuality you have cheated on him.
If you tell him you cheated, you are in for more troubles than you already have. My biggest question at this point - "Is this guy really worth all the mental anguish?"
2007-01-28 06:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by marcomarco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you break up with your boyfriend. Guys who habitually accuse their girlfriend of cheating have an emotional problem that usually gets worse with time. It ruins relationships, makes the victim (you in this case) feel guilty when it's not warranted, and can lead to verbal and physical abuse.
Guys like this thrive on putting others on the defensive. They derive a feeling of power and actually begin to enjoy the fact that they can control you. And when he says he won't do it anymore but does - that's just a very typical pattern to draw you back until he needs to display his power once more.
In essence, it's a sickness - one you should want no part of.
2007-01-28 06:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by Bob B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes made you feel guilty about something that never happened. Its mind control games and some play it well. Hopefully he gets over this and you never have to hear about it again. Theres nothing wrong with you, its him. If he starts up with it again, leave him. Why be in a relationship when the other person doesnt have any faith or trust in you? Its not a way to live.
2007-01-28 06:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you have no right to feel guilty you have done nothing, but be weary, when men keep throwing that accusation around it's because they think you are up to the same thing they are (get my drift) he could be cheating on you and playing games to make you feel guilty about it, then when you catch him and you will eventually he'll say well you were cheating on me so this make us even.
I have warned you dear, keep you wits about you and please do not feel any feelings for something you haven't done except for maybe anger for the accusation
2007-01-28 06:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but is sounds like you are feeling guilty about something. Do you have any idea what? I wouldn't tell him you feel that way untill you figure out whats going on with you because to be honest it sounds like you did cheat in some way. Maybe with time this will fade.
2007-01-28 06:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl dont feel guilty u didn't cheat him so dont worry about anything ya'll need time to be seperated kinda like space and it will determine which one of ya'll is the cheater trust me it works or maybe he's accusing you because he's the one cheating.
2007-01-28 06:32:58 · answer #11 · answered by Smiley17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋