I have terrible insecurities about the way I look. I feel the only people who have said that I am good-looking are my parents. But out there women's standards in how a man should look are much higher, and I am pretty f*ked about my scars, my wormy body and my hole in my chest in a world where women want a sexy body and a perfect face. I have shut myself off from other people and have tried to forget about the looks issue but it comes swanning back (in fact last Thursday with the Diet Coke ad). And from reading women's responses to the 'do looks matter' question I went out today actually realising that no-one outside my family can love me for who I am. I can work hard and bring out the best when I can but with this reminder I can't do both. I actually starting a skills development course tomorrow, but that horrible cloud will be over me when I don't want it to. And I somehow always feel better when girls aren't around because they'll judge me. Or compare me to someone better looking.
2007-01-28 06:19:36 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women will not like this answer, but there are some cold hard facts you need to understand about the opposite sex.
Most women are attracted to a certain type of personality over looks. If looks were more important, then most of the rocks stars you see on TV would be more hard up than you because they are predominantly skinny, ugly and treat women like toilette paper. You can go to any nightclub and regularly see the ugliest guys who are the biggest jerks in the place take home the best looking girls. Why? It's because they have confidence in themselves.
Your problem is not your looks, but your personality. Your low self esteem is killing any chance you have with women, and you will continue to suffer dateless Friday nights until you stop being sorry for yourself. Ask yourself why would anyone want to date someone who thinks they're the ugliest guy in the world? You need to stop thinking like that or you will remain miserably single forever.
So stop comparing yourself to a Diet Coke ad and grow some balls.
2007-01-28 12:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by MojaveDan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your pucture you look very attractive. There are girls out there that prefer to be with a man who is slender. I happen to be one of them. I like tall thin guys. They are the ones that age very well!! (My dad was awkwardly thin in his youth, Now at 60 when most men have pot bellies he looks better than most men half his age. Not that looks matter!!!) Women are not as shallow as men are. We care more about how someone treats us. Don't worry so much!! You will not always be lonely. Get a hobby or volunteer. Eventually you will find somone that you have something in common with.
2007-01-28 06:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look i have read everyone of your questions and even tried to contact you to prove to you that some people do care and not all of us women judge you i'm sorry that you feel the way you do and i wish that there were someway that i could help you realize what i have already stated above if you want you can contact me at sweet_pea_six@yahoo.com and i hope that you do because i really wish to talk to you
2007-01-29 01:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by sapphire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋