how can i be less shy around guys? help!!?

Question

I have a problem with being shy around guys... even if I don't like them. Even guys that are just friends. I really want to get over this and talk to them more because I know a lot of cool ones!! Help!!

Answer 1

ok i cant talk to boys that i like unless i pretend that they are my best friend until the conversation gets going

Answer 2

It's totally normal to feel shy around guys - I think everyone's gone through it at one point or another, you just seem to experience it on a more frequent basis. Some guys actually find it cute - very unpretentious, so it isn't all bad. Where it can be a problem is if you never get past the nervousness when a guy is persuing you. At some point he will expect you to warm up to him and start contributing to the relationship.

The best remedy is exposure to overcome this fear - as scary as that may sound. Case and point: at my first job I was terrified to get on the phone and talk to strangers to arrange volunteer hours but the more I did it, the better I got and the fear simply disappeared. So the next time a guy comes into contact with your circle, try to take small steps to engage him somehow. Hold eye contact for 10 seconds or ask him a question. Just resist the urge to shy away.

Answer 3

I don't think there is an quick and fast fix that works for everyone but when I was in school I was shy around people in general and boys really frightened me. The only way for me to get past it was to face my fear I put myself in situations were I had to speak the large groups or give presentations. When people start showing interest in what you are saying it gives a boost to your ego and self confidence. Maybe sign-up for a debate team or take an acting class.

Answer 4

oh gosh taylor, I can completely understand you! I used to be exactly like that! But I don't really know if I can be of much help...mostly you should just spend as much time with them as possible, put yourself out there, and get used to them. trust me, some guys like shy girls, and pretty soon, you'll find that it's as easy to be yourself around your guy friend than it is around your girl friends. it's not really something that others can help you with, confidence is something you have to discover on your own(how corny does that sound =P)

Answer 5

Guys are just people too. They have theor own hang ups. You should be confident and say whatever is on your mind. Even if you're a little weird (not too weird) that's fine, most people don't care as long as you're not down right strange. People like other people to talk, and especially if they're confident. Relax an just do it. You'll be happier.

Answer 6

Be yourself girl you don't want to say or do any thing you might regret later, When you start feel more comfortable your shyness will go away, it's OK to be shy some guy like that.

Answer 7

well i dont know how to answer this.
I am usually shy to the boring dudes.
But when I hang around guys that are outgoing
and like "the class clown" I'm not shy at all.

Answer 8

i use to be very shy too. but i realized why am i being like that just be yourself and everything will be okay. once i did that now i have nothing but guy friends. just be urself everything will be okay what do u have to lose

Answer 9

try no longer to get frightened. try perchance no longer to look at him a lot if this is what's making you frightened and concentrate on something else. yet nevertheless keep the interest contact reason this is significant. basically no longer a lot.

Answer 10

just be more out there. when a conversation starts do not be afraid to put in your thoughts on it. hell even if you do not know anything about it just talk. you'll have to be more confident to do all this and that's all you need- confidence.