I am about to get caught cheating?

Question

I have been married for 12 yrs and have been having an affair for 2.
It is with a married woman and me and my wife both know her and her husband very well. She started seeing a psychiatrist 2 months ago and she convinced her to stop seeing me and I can understand that but she is telling her she must come clean and tell her husband.On Thursday she is taking her husband to her appointment and telling him. This means my wife will find out and I know she will leave me.I will loose her,my home and my job because I work for her dad and her uncle.I called her and tried to talk to her but she won't answer.How can I stop her from telling her husband??? This Dr has to be a real wako don't you think ???
What can I do ?? I have not slept in 3 days and I can't think straight.Please think for me and help me.

Answer 1

That's what you get for cheating you piece of sh!t. The psychiatrist is 100% correct, she will not be able to move past her issues until she comes clean with her husband. I hope that everyone you know finds out and you lose everything, including your friends.

Answer 2

Definitely a serious problem. I dont think there is anything you can do to stop her from coming clean. Apparently it is really bothering her...because if it was not she would just end it and let it go. I think that if you forced the issue with her it would make it worse. The only thing you can do is tell your wife first...this way she does not hear it from someone else. Your wife is going to be very upset, I am sure...but the only hope there is...is to come clean as it is easier to hear it from you than from someone else and there is a slight chance if you tell her it was a mistake and how sorry you are and that you want another change and will never do it again...just maybe she loves you enough to forgive you. As far as sleeping...well no wonder you cant...and wont be able to after this comes out either. So the question remains do you love your wife enough to come clean and try to save this and does she love you enough to want it also.

Answer 3

Well you shouldnt have cheated in the first place. More than likely this other womans husband is going to leave her as well. Why not step up and be a man and tell your wife? If you werent happy with her, then why have you stayed? Maybe you and your wife need to go to therapy and work things out. Only if shes willing too, but I doubt it. You cant make this other woman do anything. If she wants to tell her husband, then shes going too. Nothing you say or do will change that. It should never have happened in the first place and now you have to live with it.

Answer 4

I'm sorry, but I will be brutally honest:
Call it Karma, call it justice, call it sin, it doesn't matter what you call it, but always know that what goes around, comes around. You're in a no win situation now because your parents failed to teach you to at an earlier age that your actions have consequences and that doing the right thing, doesn't only help others but will make YOU happy all your life.
The only chance you have now is to tell her before it comes out through the other couple. Tell her and beg her forgiveness. If she has any sense she won't forgive you, but that's your only option. You have no choice but to face the consequence of your actions. If you're lucky you've learned your lesson and even if your relationship falls apart, you know how not to jeopardize your next one.
You made your bed, now you must lay in it.

Answer 5

Well honesty is the best answer if you wanted to cheat you should of told your spouse you were cheating i did cheat and i told my husband and we worked through it and i will never cheat again if i decide i am going to i will tell him it is over with. You should tell your wife and if you love her you wouldn't of cheated for 2yrs come on and the phyciatirst is not a wacko she is doing her job. Come clean if you lose everything it will be your fault i was lucky and didn't lose anything because i told the truth and have a forgiving husband. Next time think before doing something thats not very smart.

Answer 6

Well, no offense but i hope your wife does find out, because if you REALLY loved her, you wouldn't have done it in the first place. So it's your fault, your the one that cheated so honestly you deserve it. I'd say that you should just accept the fact and move on w/ your life cuz there is no way she'll prolly take you back unless you woulda confessed to her. All you can do is prolly confess to her before the other girl tells her husband and maybe she'll forget you. If not then your screwed.

Answer 7

Ouch. Yeah, you are in a very bad situation. I don't think there's much you can do. You may want to speak to your wife before she finds out from your "mistress" or her husband. You need to fess up to your sins, and plan for worst case scenario. You knew what you were doing was wrong, and both of you are at fault. At least she is wanting to get this off of her chest; the incredible amount of guilt she's carrying is probably destroying her. Sorry, dude, but things are going to get ugly. I hope you've learned a very important lesson, at least...

Answer 8

The doctor is not a wacko. Quiet possibly you are, why would you jeopardize everything, you've dug your own grave now lay in it. However, there are some things you can do: tell your wife first and them seek individual and couples counseling. I hope you have learned your lesson and everything works out for the best if not for you then for your wife.

Answer 9

You're the whack job. Tell your wife before the other woman or her husband has a chance to. Take the consequences like the man you claim to be.

Answer 10

if i were you i would come clean with your wife before she hears it from someone else. if she leaves you, do you blame her? 2 years is a long time to be having an affair. i dont think the doctor is a wacko. she is helping the woman do what is right and come clean.