So I liked a guy and guy reciprocated but then I changed my mind. No big deal. Is it that much of an ego blow? Guy is being very mean to me now and I have to see him everyday. What can I do to appease the situation? Help!
2007-01-28 06:03:24 · 12 answers · asked by jenn's answers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. The guy is 30 yrs old!
2007-01-28 06:05:14 · update #1
girls are worst,...
boy the playing field is not even.
2007-01-28 06:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, normally a guy's reaction is based on how emotionally attached he got to you. Depending on the level of activities that transpired during your "liked a guy and guy reciprocated", the guy could react rationally, like hurt feelings, feelings of inadequacy, etc. OR he could be immature and react irrationally, like 'that b**ch just dumped me', or 'she doesn't know just how good she could have had it'.
The bottom line is, what ever the level of affection, being turned down is a blow to anyones ego. Depending on how mature/experienced a person is, will pretty much dictate how 'big' a reaction you get. I'm going to guess that the relationship of maturity to reaction level is an inverse one.
The less mature a person is, the larger the reaction.
To appease the situation, try to arrange minimal 'sight' time (outta sight, outta mind?) and maintain your professionalism since your job isn't worth being trashed due to an immature co-worker. (just what were you thinking anyhow, letting a co-worker into your personal life? That can bring so many problems.....as you can tell)
Let time heal the 'wounds'. Stay just as you were with him (obviously not flirty) and make him confront his hurt/grief. Ask him in front of other co-workers to not be mean to you- honestly, if he can't treat you with respect and integrity, then anything else will degrade to harrassement or cruelty and that is simply not acceptable these days.
2007-01-28 06:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by FerretsRule 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 12:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as they say....walk a mile in there shoes.....how would you feel?
If a guy starts liking you and you really started to liking him and then he tells you "Well I've changed my mind" would you not care or would you feel like he had been leading you on...My money says you would really be hurt and PO. Treat people like you would like to be treated!!! Plus #1 rule never and I mean never date someone you work with or have to see everyday I guess you learned that lesson the hard way.....
2007-01-28 06:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no big deal to you, yeah because you don't have to be on the other end of it. Who cares if he is 30. we men don't turn into robots at 30, with no emotion! You broke his heart, he doesn't like being crossed. sounds like a scrorpio.
2007-01-28 06:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's crushed, the way to deal with his sadness and let off emotional steam is to be angry. When one represses a certain emotion, the emotion will bubble up in some form, in this instance, anger.
2007-01-28 06:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that you found out what he is really like. Sooner or later you would have seen that mean side. Sooner is better than later.
2007-01-28 06:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we don't like mind games, That ya like to play
2007-01-28 06:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by bob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know it is not nice to ruch a relation then oops i do not like him. you need to take time not to hurt people even if they r not as you expect them.
what u can do - nothing he is angry now with time he will forgot u but be formal with him but not rude
2007-01-28 06:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GUY DON'T LIKE TO BE PUT ONE YOU GET HIM ONE WAY AND YOU KINK HIM TO THE CROB DON'T YOU THINK IT WOOD BE BETTER TO SET DOWN WITH HIM AND HAVE A TALK WITH HIM AND TELL HIM THAT YOU LIKE WHAT YOU TWO HAVE BUT IT WOOD BE BETTER JUST TO BE FRIENDS IF HE CANT STAY AWAY FROM HIM
2007-01-28 06:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 30 maybe he should grow up! ignore his dumba$$
2007-01-28 06:08:31 · answer #11 · answered by Waythere 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋