I have been on and off again with this guy for a year and a half who I really like BUT he is always too busy with his work. I know that he likes to spend time with me but I also know that I am not as important to him as he is to me. Sometimes I feel like he only see's me to make ME happy. He also frustrates me a lot by not being available to me. (And I'm not demanding.....all I ask is a day a week). Is it worth it to try and work it out? Is there anything I can do to get more of his attention?
Please Note: WE have fantastic sexual chemistry. It is very hard to leave!
2007-01-28 05:58:57 · 14 answers · asked by sdog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sexual chemistry is impossible to maintain when you don't feel special and wanted. Love making is half in the mind and half physical and anyone who's not had sex when both parties are in love with each other, has only experienced half the pleasure and satisfaction. If you think the chemistry is good now, wait until you find someone who adores you and whom you adore; now THAT will be hard to leave. You deserve better than a guy who doesn't put you first. Temporary celabacy is much better than giving of your body and soul to someone who doesn't cherish it and gets the same thing out of you as he does with his right hand. That's not worth sticking around for. You can do better.
2007-01-28 06:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by TJTB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm . . . I would probably end this situation. Is there ANY way that you can break up but still get "together" once in a while without it messing with you emotionally?
I just do not see anything coming of this. When I was in my 20's, I dated some great people but I was working on starting a business in addition to working at my regular job. I had gone to school until I was 23, getting various degrees. I wasn't ready to totally commit to anyone. It sounds similar. It's sad but it's very good that you're asking this question and questioning your relationship in general.
2007-01-28 06:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When my husband and I separated, I promised myself one thing- that I would never settle for ok. If you are in a relationship where you must constantly wander about how the other person feels or the other person does not fill your desires as an individual and you must ask them about it- he or she would not be your match. Your match should be someone who has equal desire for you and repect. You would both make each other smile and want what makes the other happy. Making each other happy should be the number one goal in any relationship- when one person stops caring about the other person's happiness and is unwilling to discuss the reasons and work it out- I would say that it is time to move on....
2007-01-28 06:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, and breathe deeply for a few minutes here before venturing further into this answer please. Alright. Now if the guy won't even give you a FULL day(or three even) of his company and sees you ONLY to make you happy, then(as hard as this is going to be for you) end this travesty of a relationship and find someone more worthwhile to spend your life with.
2007-01-28 06:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its worth it, if he cant make time for you then hes not really dedicated to u and so what if you have fantastic sexual chemistry there are other people on the world that are probably better.
2007-01-28 06:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by filipino_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask that question, that chances are the answer is no. Ask him if it's ok for you go out with someone else. If he says yes...go out with someone else..there are too many fish in the sea. If he says no, he's showing you that he at least cares a little.
2007-01-28 06:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by A J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel good sex can only be performed by this guy then stay with him. You can leave the love, caring, real relationship and companionship for other people.
2007-01-28 06:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship takes time and dedication, and love. It seems to me the only thing yall have going is good sex! You are the only one giving time and dedication and love! but it takes two to tango and only you are trying. I think its better for you to let him go NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-28 06:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by Lashaun A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I firmly believe that if he were worth it you would know it. Stay for the sex or look for a whole package. It's up to you.
2007-01-28 06:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only u can decide, i have the same exact problem right now so if u get a good answer let me know
2007-01-28 06:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋