My boyfriend spends most days with his friends and i never have a problem with it.
He often comes back to mine late at night and expects things in the morning (use your imagination)
I wouldnt mind but we never really seem tospend proper time with each other or go anywhere.
He won't let me out with him and his friends and i feel left out.
Id like to be able to go out socially with him,not just have a few hours each morning.
Thats not quality time.
Am i over reacting?
What should i say to him?
2007-01-28 05:58:32 · 18 answers · asked by Ciderlolly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THE GIMP - The friend in question isn't there.
2007-01-28 06:17:17 · update #1
He used ot ask me out all the time but thats not what's bothering me.
The friend he's hanging out with used to be a close friend of mine and I spent alot of time there. Suddenly i'mnot allowed up there anymore (according to the boyfriend) because I'm "shagging" him. I'm upset because I can't seemy friend.
Regardless of wether or not he's a boy, he was a good friend who I can no longer see because my boyfriend goes mad :(
I hope you all know what Imean.
2007-01-28 06:20:05 · update #2
say nothing, show him the door and lock it behind him
anyway, a couple of days ago you said he does asks you for drinks with his mates and you cant go because you fancy one of them! You need to sort your head out
2007-01-28 06:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by G*I*M*P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say good bye. If he isn't wanting to take you out socially, it sounds like something is up. Have you actually met his friends? Makes me kind of wonder what he is doing when he is out. Sadly it sounds like he is using you for sex and a place to crash. I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but I think you deserve much better than that. I have been in your shoes to some degree and I always found myself longing for much more. I got out of that relationship and now how have a very fulfilling one (both emotionally and physically) with my husband. I know my husbands friends and he knows mine. I go out with my friends on occasion and my husband goes out with his and that is great and fun. But you also need to make time for your relationship (real time, not just bed time). If you and the relationship meant that much to him, he would find the time. To me it doesn't sound like it means that much to him at all. If you are not getting what you want from a relationship, then get out of it and find someone who will show you the love and the respect that you deserve and who will spend real quality time with you outside of the bedroom. You don't want to wake up 5 or 10 years from now and be in the same position you are now. Tell him good bye - perhaps one of his buddies can satisfy his morning urges - you have more important things to attend to and they don't involve him. Good luck.
2007-01-28 06:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god this is how it was with my ex were in love spent loads of time together then it was seeing him 2 times a week wen he like and was just sex was like Kan we see each other more go out more and he like i wanna see my mates more we Kan not b together any more but still see each other so other words lets just keep it as it is and carry on having sex wen i say so no no no i have respect now i have shown him the door and he is text-in me prob coz other gals wont stand 4 it and see threw the Dick
2007-01-28 06:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are definetly not over reacting you need to bring this up to him because it sounds like he is using you for sex how dare him not let you go anywhere with them and another thing is if you guys dont go anywhere together thats a BAD sign
2007-01-28 06:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by I love America♥♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well, what you should say to him is p*** **f immediately
You are not over reacting, in fact I am, in answering
this question I never believed in Magazines, let alone
a web site...... if your for real.. unless you are enjoying the
sex and like a very lonely life,, then my first sentance stands.
.
2007-01-28 06:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by landgirl60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going thru the same problem.Now I just tell him that its MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY and tell him if he doesn't buck up his act,I will leave him.Also I go on the internet when he can blatantly see what I am doing and look up womens refuge sites/communes etc.It really seems to be working!Honest-give it a try-it's good!
2007-01-28 06:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by snuffylover4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he wakes up in the morning wanting to spend some quality time, tell him you're going out with your girlfriends for breakfast and you'll be available that night.
2007-01-28 06:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by A J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM- throw his clothes away in the dumpster or sell them... and that's comming from an eight year old!!! (My bf's neice) I think the same way!!!! Let him go... if he don't want to spend time with you, and I mean quality time, then get rid of his ***!!!! There are too many men out there to be wasting your precious time with the jerks that don't want to be with you!
2007-01-28 06:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by crystalynwilliams 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him how you feel and if he doesnt try to change things then i dont think hes worth the effort. And by the sound of it, it kinda seems like hes with you for the sex
2007-01-28 06:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by filipino_chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to p*ss off. He`s using you, and you`re letting him do it. Get assertive and lay down a few ground rules. If he doesn`t like it, tell him to sling his hook. There`s plenty more where he came from!
2007-01-28 06:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋