my boyfriend cheated on me (didn't have sex) in the beginning of our relationship. He told me and we broke up for a couple of weeks. He felt very bad. it has been 8 months and he has gone out of his way to show me that he would not do it again. Should I trust him?
2007-01-28 05:54:03 · 11 answers · asked by surfawave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you did the same thing, would you expect your boyfriend to give you a second chance? If so, then yes, you should give him a second chance.
2007-01-28 05:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Calisoxfan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust him yes, let your guard down-no. They are two totally different things and most people don't know how to balance the two thinking that they are one in the same. The base of any relationship is obviously trust and if you do not trust the guy then there is absolutely no point to be in the relationship to begin with. If you really feel he won't do it again then forgive him, but if you forgive him before you really feel any comfort that he won't do it again then you will find yourself in a lot of arguements over the matter. Take the relationship slow again and make sure that you trust him.
Sadly a person who has cheated once will most likely do it again (not in all cases, but clearly in most) and if the guy is just a whore then he will do it again, but if he cares for you enough and you guys continue a healthy relationship, he hopefully won't. Good luck
2007-01-28 06:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should have decided that before you put another 8 months into your relationship? Sometimes it takes a Man/Woman to almost lose something to realise what they had. Forgive him and move forwards. If he does it again, kick his A** to the Curb. Once trust is broken there is nothing left to build a relationship on. But everyone deserves a second chance..
2007-01-28 06:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There is continuously a lack of trust in a relationship like that, irrespective of how much time has handed, due to the fact that at the back of the monogamous accomplice's mind, there'll consistently be that little doubting voice questioning whether the other associate is rather doing what he/she said or not. The nice thing to do is be trained from your errors and transfer on.
2016-08-10 14:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by lyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way you can trust him again is if you let him gain his trust back. ie: if you take him back, chill out for a while. Just from experience though, you have to let him hang with the boys, if you tie him down and dont let him go anywhere, he will probably just do it again. PS: you guys have to make a pact that whenever you argue, you cant keep bringing it up and throw it in his face. remember, your the one who took him back.
2007-01-28 05:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by zimmzimm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question. I tried forgiving my ex after cheating...but just couldnt get over it. In your heart you need to feel that he is truly sorry for what he did and that he learned his lesson
2007-01-28 05:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Once a cheater, always a cheater! That element of trust has been broken.
2007-01-28 05:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by itsjustchris1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, since he waited 8 months for you.
2007-01-28 05:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But thats my opinion ... once trust is broken, its wastes too much time and energy trying to get it back.
2007-01-28 06:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by rosie768 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets put it this way.Did he earn your trust????.I shall not suggest you to trust him or not.Its all upto him to earn your trust.You do nothin.He is supposed to put in efforts to gain your trust back.
2007-01-28 06:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋