When two people are in love they usually get involved in physical relations with each other(like hugging, kissing, holding hands) which is normally considered harmless. But what does Islam say about it? I would also like to know about dating and phone sex.
2007-01-28 05:49:09 · 9 answers · asked by Sky Guy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I would question the part about "in love", because muslim men always feel thier wives are property, like livestock. They say this is the instruction of the Koran, so that is what Islam says about it. The object is to control the stock- and use it as they wish.
What's proper in Islam is a superficial pretense, it seems to have nothing to do with what they are willing to do. Of course what you do (not what you claim or preach) IS who you are. Clearly love has nothing to do with it.
2007-01-28 05:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by spiritgide41 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Islam does not allow that, esp before marriage, but it allows for the coulpe to meet in a place where they are not alone, like at home in the company of a member of the family, or in a restaurant, and dating would undergo in that sense. Phone calls are also allowed but again not in the sense mentioned in your question.
Islam encourages Muslims to be irrational and not get involved in relations before marrige, and get to know their future spouses in a more sensible way, i mean they have the rest of their lives for that stuff! as there are things that are more important than that as well! All in an innocent and decent way that does not hurt the feelings of the woman, so no hugging and the likes must be involved either, just simple face to face meetings and nothing else.
2007-02-05 13:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From an interview I saw with a Muslim woman on TV, there are no physical relations allowed between two persons in "love" before marriage. She said that her marriage was arranged and the only reason she met the man her family selected was to discuss marriage. They always had a chaparone and were never alone together until after they married. She also said Muslims don't "date" in the western sense of the word. If the marriage talk doesn't go well, it's all over and they wait until their family finds another potential spouse.
2007-02-05 09:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by fenhongjiatu1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All praise is due to Allah and peace and blessings be upon the beloved Prophet Muhammad. In Islam, any kind of fornication or sex before marriage is unlawful. Canoodling of any sort usually leads to other things. One can kick and scream about how they have good will-power, but sometimes the desires of the body can overpower the will of the mind. That is why Islam nips the problem before something worse happens. This kind of contact still brings some sort of false elation and blindness. You are not totally into this person for who they are but you are also drawn to the physical aspects of the relationship.
Islam also frowns on dating of any kind. A Muslim may see a woman, but the woman must have a "mahram" (like a chaperone). This mahram must be somebody that she cannot marry though like her brother, an uncle, her father, etc. A Muslim man is only allowed to court another person of the Book ( Muslim, Christian, or Jewish). He should also never be alone with her, or in a room with closed doors. His intention should also be for marriage of this woman and not just for the sake of hanging-out with her.
If both are ultimately interested in eachother and they seem to have a connection, then they may be engaged to marry. Once they are married, they may start to have a full husband-wife relationship.
Phone sex is also a no-no. This is still a form of lust and will also lead to pursuing stronger sexual desires. The whole point of this process is only to bring eachother together for the sake of Allah. Respect and the sharing of mutual interest should surface once the couple gets to know eachother and before the contract is drawn up.
They should love eachother for who they are before they are clouded with false precepts that sexual activity brings. It's just so much more special that way. The physical part of a relationship eventually fades, but the respect and true love of that person for who they are will always last, insha'Allah (The creator willing). I put a reliable link below for you to refer to. Type in a key word in the search and it will give you more Islamic rulings (fatwas). Allah knows best.
2007-01-28 14:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by evasquez26 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As far as I know, physical contact is not allowed. Dating with the two individuals alone with the intention of doing anything physical is not allowed and certainly not phone sex. You are allowed to see each other and get to know each other. When you get to know the person, you are able to appreciate what is on the inside not what is on the outside. Please someone correct me if I am wrong.
2007-01-28 14:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey in all religions adultery is forbidden . dont forget people like forbidden fruit therefore you find many people that they only carry the name of religion for example christ , muslim or hindu but iam sure they have no religion they are starving and slave of sex .they use the beautiful word of (love) as a tool and when they hear the word of marriage they prefer scape because they want to sex with many people but all religions learn us, our body is holy and that is temple of god and we have to care about it . they invite us to married happiness and holylife with one person .
2007-02-05 08:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by dayana_rose2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that they marry for love in Islam. The marrage is an arranged marriage and they are not alone together until they are married.
2007-01-28 14:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
As I understand it (please correct me if I am wrong):
Most marriages are arranged, some couples do not meet until the wedding. Any "dates" would be chaperoned, as it is not proper for a single women to be alone with a man.
2007-01-28 14:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by hazydaze 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
religion has nothing to do with it .it is up to you. if it secret nothing going to happen.if you are showing it publicly then any clergy going to say it haram
2007-02-04 13:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by ghettu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋