my boyfriend 100% does not trust me and i can assue you i am one of the most loyal girlfriends. he always is accusing me and gets very madd. how do i PROVE to him i am not cheating
2007-01-28 05:45:34 · 38 answers · asked by Lexi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only time will tell. People in his life have betrayed him. He knows that he had trusted before, but was wrong. Now he cannot trust anymore. Did you do anything to instigate this mis-trust? I know how it works. women have guy friends, but a guy cannot have a women friend, because he cant control himself, its born in us.
So therefore if a woman has a male friend and he is just a friend, the boyfriend sees this a bit different as just being a friend; because he cant just have a girl "friend" without wanting to touch her. He believes there is a possiblity that you might just say you love him when there is another guy in your life (your friend that you might touch). Men just want to be the only one, no others.
Be carefull though, because if the jealousy is too bad, and you get married; Iv'e heard of people beating up people on the asumption that someone was with someone else, or so they thought. Only you can make the decisions that you need.
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2007-01-28 06:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by wizardpoof 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove that he is. I have found that if a guy accuses you of cheating, it is because they are. He is trying to divert the attention and make you out to be the bad one and/or he is feeling guilty about it and taking it out on you.
If he isn't cheating, tell him that he has to trust YOU (he is probably telling you that he does trust you and just doesn't trust the people around you). I am guessing that he doesn't like your friends unless he knew them first.
Good Luck!
2007-01-28 05:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he may be cheating and thats how he is dealing with his guilt, but also I dont know your situation of course but it is a cotrolling/manipulating behaviour, my ex would accuse me constantly of cheating, yet I wasnt permitted to leave the house. (controlling) It could be he has control issues, and wants to make you feel insecure about your relationship, because isnt that one of many things we want? Security in our relationship? Just going on experience, he didnt want me to have any type of security so he made sure of it by constantly making accusations. Good Luck, be warned, if he is controlling in any way IT WILL get worse as time goes on, if he doesnt stop get out.
2007-01-28 05:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you have to prove anything if he cant see that ur perfectly loyal and hes accusing you for no reason hes just really insecure with himself and he needs time to think whether hes gonna trust you or not
2007-01-28 05:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by filipino_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you consider yourself so above reproach that you are heedless of the things that would make your guy worry. Its hard to trust when you are getting bad signals and red flags. Remember, cheaters act just as put upon and innocent as you when confronted.
My last girlfriend was like this. I just got tired of the whole thing, even if she wasn't cheating it felt like disrespect. And she would have a fit if I did the same things and I also consider myself above reproach.
2007-01-28 06:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't ave to prove anything if you are indeen innocen, just got through your day as you normally would. Sounds like he has been cheated on by girls in the past and he is making you suffer for their mistakes. He has low self esteem-he is probably already having you watched by his friends to see if you are being faithful. Good luck-and remember there are plenty of other fis in the tank if you don't stick with him.
2007-01-28 05:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Bunny to the rescue! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was hurt so bad before he met you that it is hard to trust someone OR he is guilty of doing something wrong himself!! If he really cared for you you should not have to prove yourself to him at all ! I think you ought to accuse him of doing what he thinks your doing and see what his reaction is!!! GOOD LUCK !! You sound like a nice person do not let ANYONE make you feel bad about yourself because they are not worth it !!!!!!
2007-01-28 05:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by linda bug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy...did I say oh boy?
Listen well here: Your BF is a super super control freak, immature, and dangerous. He is a crazy maker, and gets something out of Making you wrong and seeing you upset and defending yourself. He will NOT change wiothout a ton of professional help over a good few years. He is sadistic, and might not realize it at all. YOu, on the other hand, have put up with being a victim. Stop it NOW!
YOu MUST, MUST, MUST, did I say must dump him immediatey. He needs a whole lot of professional help.
You must rid yourself of this crazymaker.
Read: Stop, You're Driving Me Crazy.
2007-01-28 05:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. The problem is not your faithfulness but his lack of trust.
He sounds possessive and insecure and Id even suggest his behavior implies a measure of 'infidelity' on his part.
If its a constant problem the the bottom line is that you dont have a relationship. Who says you have to be faithful to him anyway? He has no right to demand your fidelity, its an implied gift from you to him.
He does not own you.....you do.
2007-01-28 05:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's that paranoid that you are cheating, you may want to research what he's doing when you're not with him. Or maybe he's been in a relationship before where the girl hurt him, so maybe he just can't trust yet.
How long have you all been dating for?
2007-01-28 05:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by uhd0rableo8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋